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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Im still not over my ex and its been 2 yrs, it hurts me. I have so much feelings for him, yet he didnt even kiss me. He lost interest in me at the start of the relationship, thats why he didnt kiss me, and blamed it on my shyness, and told me a yr after the break up the truth that he wasn't into me. We were best friends now thats over. Our friendship is broken and theres nothing i can do to fix it. Its like this situation.http://www.postthelove.com/entry/6a0120a8417d7d970b01310f4f5a48970cI've met a new guy im not sure if i like him, i feel like i will never be able to like anyone as much as i liked my ex, which i dont mind because i dnt want to be hurt again, but i feel guilty its unfair on the new guy. He seems interested, and i have a little bit of feelings but i dont want a proper relationship with him. Will this make me a hoe, even though i know i wont be doing anythin sexual i still havent kissed. I cant go through the heartache again, i just want to keep things casual and simple if anything goes further. Some of my friends dont like him but i dont care they think he's a jokeman and is the type that will use me for sex, he's completely different to my ex really loud, funny not shy in public always dancing around and teasing me, strangely he's shy when its just me and him. Sometimes i think i like him over times i think i dont. I dont want to lead him on, i just feel emotionally numb towards boys except my ex. I feel bad that i still want him and i have an oppourtunity to move on but im still holding on to my ex even tho i've cut contact with him now.Advice much appreciated thank u x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): i understand ur situation because i was there. but u should give this new guy a chance! im sure that once u get to know him ull eventually start developing feelings for him. sadly enough it took me quite a long time to really open up to my current bf (a few months) because i told myself i would never develop the connection i had with my first bf. eventually as i got to know him i gradually started openning up to him and realised tht i was a lot happier with him than with my ex.
his personality sounds similar to ur current bfs and it really helped me see life differently and more positively.
and many of my friends also said that he was a player ( although this never was the case once i got to know him).
i think u should take things slow and slowly get to know him. its ok to be protective and guarded and sometimes it actually benefits us because it does prepares us for the worst scenario (if he does turn out to be a player).
just get to know him and see how ur feelings towards him develop from then on... maybe ull become very happy with him.. who knows!
so no worries, and it not uncommon at all how u feel, but believe me a new guy (maybe this one or another) will come into the pic and will help u forget all of those painful feelings that u feel towards ur ex.
good luck girl!
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