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writes:I'm 15 and I currently have a great boyfriend. He has been coming over and we have been making out and he has been touching me. But I haven't been touching him. He wants me to though. And I feel bad I haven't been. Should I feel this way? And also what should I do if he keeps touching me. Don't get me wrong, I love it when he does, but we went from my very first kiss ever to him touching me. Reply to this Question
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reader, devastated2008 +, writes (17 August 2009):
 I know its hard when you're in love, but things are moving way to fast. You arent resisting him touching you probably because it feels great... but deep down you don't feel right about it and you're scared... which is why you resist touching him back.
Let him know how you feel (and you have every right to feel this way) and ask for the touching to stop. He is likely to resist but hold firm... his response is important and will tell you how he REALLY feels about you. If he loves and respects you, he will honor your request and accept the boundary. If he doesn't you need to drop him quick because he's only in it for the anticipated sex.
(Don't tell him you might feel different in the future, let him think sex is off limits... you can always change your mind down the road, but it needs to remain firmly and unequivocably in your control.)
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