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writes:I am gay and in a relationship with someone that i love and care for so much. We have been together for a year. He was married once before to a woman but divorced after she found out that he was sleeping with a guy friend of his.Iam currently living with him, and a few months ago he asked me to marry him, but i said that i wasn't ready and there was too much to learn from each other before we got married.It's been an off and on relationship and ever since his gay friend died, my b/f has never been the same, and now that i am ready to marry him, it seems like he doesn't care about life anymore. I have told him before that i would gladly leave and find someone else to love but he is afraid of that, but i cannot continue feeling like this for long.So we decided to give it a try and it's been great, just until last Sunday, he brought over a gay guy friend of his - home but he fed me lies about him that i could tell from how he was talking that he was just lying to me. Yes i realise and respect that this is his home and he can do whatever he wants, but at least have the decency to tell me that he was bringing someone over wasn't there? So after finding out he had sex with him, he completly distanced himself from me and i am trying to ask him what's wrong but he wont tell me.I feel as though he is having second thoughts about us and giving this guy a chance to be with him and pushing me away. What should i do?
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (7 May 2008):
 I agree with mylonelyself. To me, this is a clear cut case of respect... and you're not getting it. I think it's time to cut your losses and move on and find the one that is all that you want... love, respect, honestly...
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reader, mylonleyself +, writes (6 May 2008):
 That is a very difficult situation you are in, if you feel that way(being pushed and not loved) and you have tried to talk to him about it, why waste your time? Just go on and look for another guy who really respects you and at least tells you the truth. Just my point of view.
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