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*owagirl82
writes:I have been dating a guy for about 2 and a half months. So far, everything seems to be going well. We haven't had any major arguments, we spend a lot of time together, and we have a lot in common. I met his friends, and he met mine, and he is caring and thoughtful.Here's the problem. I am constantly insecure about the relationship because I've been hurt so badly in the past. I keep waiting for the "ball to drop" and for things to not go well. If he doesn't call me one day, for example, I will mentally freak out and assume that the relationship is doomed. If we don't have future plans, I assume that he never wants to see me again.So far, I've kept all of my issues a secret from him. I know that if he knew how terrified I am, it would hurt the relationship. At the same time, I don't feel emotionally close to him because I can't share any of my real feelings. The whole thing is making me depressed, but I can't tell him that either. I don't know what to do. I really like this guy, but I'm sabotaging everything by being so scared and insecure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010): I feel ya! I've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years and I am still very insecure. Maybe it wouldn't hurt to sit down and talk to him. Don't tell him everything. Just enough so you will feel better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010): Nothing has happened yet, so do not waste your energy thinking about what could potentially go wrong in your relationship. Bottom line, you cant predict the future so stop trying.
The relationship is in its early stages so just enjoy the good parts. Right now you seem to be keeping your thoughts to yourself and thats the best way for now. When you have been with him longer (and he hasn't hurt you) the issues might go away by its self as you become more trusting of him. If it doesn't then you can share your troubles with your bf, who will support you if he loves you.
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