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writes:I told my husband he doesn't act "in-love" anymore!My husband and I have been married 4 years. Last year he got a new job that requires him to work 2nd shift, while I continue to work 1st shift. Each week there are at least 4 days where we don't see each other at all, or maybe just for a few minutes in passing. This has added strain to our relationship, and has limited our sex-life also. About once every 2 weeks he and I will get in an argument over NOTHING because we both are frustrated. This past Saturday we went out for a day of drinking during a St. Patrick's Day parade. During our partying I became drunk and very vocal about how I thought he doesn't act like he's "in-love" with me anymore. I told him that I felt like we were losing our closeness because of our time apart and he isn't putting forth any effort to try to help the situation. He not being so drunk, just kept trying to calm me down. Needless to say, he's quite mad at me now. He's a man that needs space when mad, so I gave him a couple days of room. I confronted him today in the 5 minutes we saw each other in passing letting him know that I took responsiblity for my actions, and told him he in no way deserved my drunken speech. I also told him I wish I had a more appropriate time to talk. He brushed me off, told me that he'd be going out after work, and that he may be going out of town during the four days he has off at the end of the week.WHAT CAN I DO TO FIX THIS!?! Given our limited time together I don't know how I can possibly do anything before his "weekend getaway". There is no indications that he's cheating, and that's not really the problem. I just don't want this festering for an additional 4 days, plus the days that he'll be working afterwards that I'll just see him in passing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2007): An hour is the healthy time of spending time away from the other to give them time to cool off and not days.
What he is doing is punishing and unhealthy.
I say get to a counsellor ASAP couple's and individual. Having someone to listen to your side and lend support and insight will benefit you and your marriage greatly.
*hugs*
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