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*mma118
writes:i have been in a relationship for 4 years with my boyfriend. It has been pretty intense as we went to uni together and have lived together for over 2 years. We got together as each others first serious partner. I fear that we have formed a codependency, he wants control over so much of what i do and makes me feel bad about being me . he's jealous, controlling and verbally abusive. I think he emotionally abuses me. We love one another a lot and when things are going his way, they're perfect. But i feel like im living a lie and have been trying to work out how to leave on and off for over a year. im desperate-i am scared he would be destroyed if i left and also that he wouldnt let me live life without him. Advice is desperately needed! i cant talk to anyone as if i told them what he was really like, everyone would judge him. please help!
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reader, Ziggystardust +, writes (7 April 2007):
Hi youre in a bit of a mess, you already know the answer is to leave but your too good a person to do it. If you stay youll have to be somthing youre not. No one has the right to impose their will on anyone else. Were in relationships because the relationship fills our needs and we feel good about fulfilling our partners needs. Youre walking a one way street. If you still love him My advice would be to seperate and see less of one another. Build things up again on equall terms. If you dont love him simply move on...........
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