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writes:I just recently found out my b/f has genital warts and neither of us has ever cheated so I don't know who gave it to who, and my biggest problem is that i'm sooo close 2 my family and I NEVER want them to find out... i'm scared they will play the blame game and not accept my b/f (even though neither of us knew we had anything)...there are soo many questions about this disgusting STD that i have no clue about and I need 2 go to a doctor but i fear my family will find out.... and I can't turn to anyone close 2 me cuz i'm truly disgusted and embarrassed with myself, if anyone knows alot about genital warts and if i'll ever have a normal sex life with my b/f please fill me in... i have never had a break out so far... but i know what 2 expect but i just feel like my life is OVER and when i look at people i just feel like i'm not normal anymore
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reader, tevinchy  +, writes (8 January 2009):
dont worry too much babiegirl, if safety in numbers comforts you, then be rest assured you are not alone in your dilemma. it always feels like everyone around you can see through you or as if its written on your forehead in big bold 'STI' but its not, okay. the challenge with such conditions is that it makes you so self-conscious and this only weakens your spirit and you cant live your life to the max (reality!) but then all hope is not lost my dear. its all about dealing with the stigma within you and understanding more about the condition and then living appropriately. the only person you can really see and get help is a doctor (there are quite many of them im sure you can find one far enough from your family!) best wishes
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): The rate of hpv infection is huge statistically 90% of sexually active women will contract it in there lifetime, this is fact, unfortunately of over 100 variants im aware of there are maybe 3 that cause the warts and only one of those three which in some cases can lead to cervical cancer. The warts can appear anywhere between 2 weeks and 14 months of contracting the virus if at all. This is why the condition has become common. Therefore this does not mean your bf may of cheated he just may of not known he was infected. The important thing to do is to remove the warts as they are directly linked with the viral growth so that your system can eventual devlop strong enough immunity to prevent outbreaks. This std in your case is mostly cosmetic so as long as your carefull and treat it IT WILL BE OK
Hope everything works out and remember to wear a condom especially with new partners
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): You should google HPV......some statistics say the infection rate is as high as 80% of the population that is infected with them, so don't feel so bad. You or your man could have picked them up years ago and never had an outbreak.There is good news and bad news...just like with other warts, your body learns to fight them with time and after a few years you probably won't see them ever. I was diagnosed with them when I was 25, had cryosurgery and have never had another outbreak. There are some things you can do to help your body fight them, don't smoke (that's number one) and make sure you get a pap smear frequently. Your dr. may want to do one as frequently as every 3 months at first..the reason being that there are some very dangerous strains of HPV that cause cervical cancer. This is a very treatable condition and you won't have to have chemo or anything like that, but it has to be treated early!Your boyfriend needs to be treated as well, all visible warts have to be frozen off. You may already have them, or you could have a natural immunity to them but you have to go to a gynecologist, don't put it off and don't be embarrassed, they see this EVERY day.Information is your best friend, good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): are you 100% sure you got it too? go to planned parenthood and take the test first...there is a chance you didnt get it...(I dunno how your sex life is so...)
some people break up once a year....others more others less...there's medicine you can take to minimize the outbreaks i think...you just really need to go to a doctor
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): first let me say that having an std is not the end of the world the name says it all sexually transmitted not i dont how it happen or someone pass and touch me....someone had sex outside of the relationship if not u then ur boyfriend so u need to be honest wit each other. if its him that cheating and its unacceptable cheating is one thing but he dont care about u or his self to use a damn condom....if its him the u need to leave him, tell ur family and then go to the doctor wit a family member jus so u can have someone to comfort u. please be strong ur not the first and sadly u wont be the last, life do go on and so would ur sex life but remember if u do change partners tell them b4 u have sex with them and always always use a condom. julianna
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