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writes: I am very happy in my recent relationship of 7 months. I am a 30 year old female and my boyfriend is 29. We have a very healthy sex life. We are exclusive. But I am concerned about a habit of mine - I do not understand it. The thing that gets me most excited when masturbating is thinking of him with another woman - usually a real woman we know, like a friend, coworker or especially an ex. I would never want him to do this in real life. In fact, I think it gets me mad and that is what turns me on. Am I crazy? Do you think this habit could hurt our relationship? I have told him I do this and while he does not seem concerned he wishes I did not need to do this. It is not all the time - but it is the failsafe that works evertime. I did this with my ex-husband as well. Is something wrong with me? H
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2005): i believe if your thinking this why not let it happen it seems really exciting,and maybe it will bring some kind of excitement into your sex life because my husband says if you think about it you must want to try it someway or another,valerie
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2005): probably not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2005): I am a guy in a relationship currently and I think it is safe to say that there is a little bit of truth in what the above comment said cause sometimes I have those fantasies about my g/f but I would never want her to actually act out my fantasies too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2005): Hey There, yes, you have the same fetish [ or whatever one would call it] as me.I also fantasise about my husband making love with someone we know, while we are making love.I also cant climax until I do this, so you see,there is nothing wrong with you, I think it is a little bit of a jealousy streak that we have deep inside, that turns us on, which I believe is quite common.I say, as long as it is working for you and not doing any harm to either of you, dont worry, you are releasing the tension and the feelings in a positive way.Lots of people have fantasies to get them excited, so if yours is getting the job done, just relax and enjoy... and remember... a man does not need to know every little detail of our fantasies, we can keep them private, a little mystery never hurt anyone.
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