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writes:So, i've never really wrote to one of these before.. i feel kind of stupid doing it, but i really don't know what to do about this anymore..I'm only 16, still in school. I'm smart, and i know i'm capable of going far in life, have amazing family and friends but then theres this guy who just brings all of that down. I wouldnt feel so stupid in writing this, apart from this guys married, with a daughter. I'm not close with him, never really spoke to him properly but he lives near me and works in our local supermarket. My parents are relativly close with him and his family which makes things a whole lot worse. Basically, i've liked him since i was around 14. I know it's stupid but i can't stop thinking about him, thoughts about how my life would be with him are constantly on my mind. I understand and accept the fact that nothing can happen between us but i can't help thinking that somewhere.. it could just happen. The reason why i'm so mad at myself for liking him is because i constantly bring myself down about him. I seem to think he's this perfect guy and then i'm just this stupid, silly little kid.I wouldnt mind so much but, he makes it harder for me.. he'll constantly stand in the window on a night with his shirt off looking directly at me through the window, if i'm outside on the phone, he'll come and stand outside too or open his window and occasionally keep standing at it and look at me directly in the eyes. If i pass him in the supermarket where he works he'll walk past me and smile, i know that's probably being friendly, but to me.. it's like he just flaunts himself infront of me!! i really need some help with this guys, what do you think about it? and how can i help myself in to getting over these awful feelings for him?!Thanks :') Reply to this Question
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (5 August 2010):
 If he's taking off his shirt and staring at you, there's something a little wrong with that picture. I suppose it's possible that he's not really looking at you, but I don't know.
Look, you know you're doing wrong. At worst, what you have is a silly childhood fantasy.
You need to be intelligent enough and strong enough to desist from acting on this fantasy.
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