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writes:Hello.I know this site obviously for adults with real relationship problems, but I don't know who else to turn to to answer my question.I am 14 and fancy my best mate's (let's call him John) 12 year old sister (let's call her Sarah). I am pretty sure she fancies me back, and so all was going splendidly until I found out that my other best mate (let's call him David) fancies Sarah. This means that we two best friends fancy the same girl, who is the younger sister of our other best mate, John. This is a doubly awkward situation because:1) It'll be awkward going out with a girl two years younger.2) It'll be awkward going out with my best mate's sister.3) My other mate fancies her, and (sorry to boast) she clearly fancies me, yet he's convinced she fancies him.Please answer my question, I will be so grateful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): I'm aged 15, my friends sister is 13.
Shes exactly two years younger then me.
Shes got two brothers in my class (she is also in my class) and one is my age (Hes my friend) other is three years younger and is my friend.
I like there/his sister, but just dont know how to ask her or what her brothers (who are my friends, older one is my best friend) would feel about it.
I've tried asking one of them (Older one) how he would feel about it (since I have two younge sisters) and he said he wouldn't care, but I know I would care alot.
Shes so attractive, but I dont want to make things uncomfortable for my Friends and her.
Think about it, you go to your Best friends house, and they start arguing, who are you going to back up?
Weird, I think we just need to wait till we are a bit older.
But I will never stop thinking about her.
Didn't really answer it, but had to say something =]
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reader, Rai +, writes (3 December 2008):
Oh my god dude, we are in the same sticky situation! I fancy my best friends sister. She is 14 at the moment and I'm near enough exactly 2 year older than her; as my birth day is on march 18th and her's is march 17th. Anyway back to the point. My other friend ( John ) believe it or not who is the same age as me, fancies her too. I hate this situation because its hard enough to get a nice girl friend as it is, not to mention your pretty best friends sister. If anyone has any advise i would really appreciate it lool help me!!! xD
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reader, pennypoohs +, writes (13 December 2007):
pennypoohs is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your support Amy.
I have decided to ask her out, holding her hand, at midnight, on New Year's Eve at her family's party. I can't wait!
However, please keep sending me answers as to what you think I should do, for I would be very interested in hearing what happened to other people who have been in my situation, eg, did you successfully go out with your best friends sister, how did let your other best friend know there was a competition for your best friend's sister's feelings, and did you maintain a close relationship with your best friend, either the one whose sister you were going out with, or the one that wanted to go out with her? etc
Thanks for replying everyone!
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reader, Amy0111 +, writes (12 December 2007):
well your in look, im 15 and ...well ive been in that situation before not between a girl though between a boy
youve got to be honest with your best friend and his sister you might be suprised by the results.
you could end up in a relationship with her,but make sure your certin because shes 12 and girls can be pretty sencetive
good luck
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reader, pennypoohs +, writes (10 December 2007):
pennypoohs is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear two friends who replied,
Thank you both very much for your replies. I considered both of them and decided that the second one was better, but thank you for yours as well mandy, i am so grateful. i think i preferred the second one (sorry i dont know ur name) because i forgot to mention that 4 a 12 year old she is very mature, and acts more like a 13 year old.
once again, thank you very much for your time answering my question. i think i am going to go 4 it and ask her out :)
ill keep u posted with how things went.
love me xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007): Hi Hunny,
What a tangled web you lead at your age sweetheart, Well without keep going back to read your question im going to try and remember who is who ok, I think sarah at 12 is wondering whats going on all this male attention so young, So you like her you best mates other mate likes her as well... Your going to have to be a gentleman if one day maybe when she is a bit older you wish to take her out, And treat this young lady with lots of respect as not only should you do that with all g/fs... But you best friend will want to be reasured that his little sister is being very well looked after, My son who is a fair few yrs older than you has just started going out with his best friends sister, And he has done nothing but treat her with caring and kindness not only is he like this naturally with girls but he has had to think about his friend and how close he is with his sister and the outcome very carefully as he does not want to loose a good friendship, so it took a long time before he asked her out. My advise to you is take it very slowly you have a lot of time dont go rushing in there think very carfully she is very young and if you do like her you will wait and give yourselves both time to mature a little more...Take care with love mandy xxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, accidently_in_love  +, writes (10 December 2007):
If she clearly fancies you then you should go for it. Yeah the age thing is not cool, but age is just a number when it comes to maturity.
She sounds mature if two 14 year fancy her. The only issue with age is if its an issue for you, or if she is too young (old priest style-joking). As for the best mate thing, thats where the problem is.
If you have a bad break up then it might strain your friendship. And you'll never be able to discuss your relationship with her brother. But if you really like her and always treat her well, her brother should be happy she with a good guy.
If she worth the friendship, go for it. But maybe check with her brother that its ok with him.
As for your other best mate, does he know you fancy her too. Maybe let him know there's some compition.
Hope it helped, and when in doubt remember bros before hoes...friends last longer than relationships, except some marriages.
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