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writes:Dear Aunt Agonyi fancy a boy in my class who is also one of my friends, he does not suspect anything and we often make fun of eachother ( in a funny way ) as i am usually too nervous to ask people out as my last relationship went completely wrong. What should i do?I know he will never make the first move! Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2008): It doesn't matter what your friends think, they defintely have no place in telling you who to like, of all the things that friends can influence you over they can't with this. Even you can't influence who it is that you like! Trust me life would be a whole lot easier if you could!
I think that if you don't ask him or see if he likes you too, you might end up regretting not having done anything about it, and that would probably make you feel worse than rejection in the long run!
xx Hope xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the help but the thing is I do go out with him in a group but he practically ignores me...
Should i really ask him
But if i do.. becuase my friends all say he is a boffin or geek they will take the mick
I know i shouldnt listen but i really dont want to be made fun out of if i get rejected :[
It would be ok if he asked me cuz then i never say no cuz i cant hurt peoples feelings easily :l
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2008): Well does he like you back? The making fun of each other in a fun way is usually a sign that you like someone so that's good :)
Just maybe spend more time with him, and go out with him and a few other friends one time, and if you talk to each other a lot while you're out as a crowd then maybe you could suggest that you go out to the cinema or something just the two of you?
And if you like each other and it's obvious, then sometimes there is no need to make it official and instead you can just enjoy each others company instead of you having to be a 'couple'.
Hope that that's helped a little! Good luck!
xx Hope xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2008): I had the exact same problem ages ago, i fancied this lad and i knew there was no way he would ask me out but i didnt want to make the first move incase he said no or something, but its your only way to find out. maybe you could get one of your really good friends to say to him "oh i think she likes you" or they could say to him "you are really flirting with her" even if he isnt flirting with you in a certain way it might make him see you in a different light. Hope this helped :) good luck!
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reader, kenny +, writes (24 May 2008):
 Use some light flirtatious gestures with him to test the water. One of the most powerful is eye contact, try to catch his gaze and hold eye contact with him for as long as you can before smiling and looking away. Touches are good, if you take something from him or give him something touch his fingertips when doing it. Smile at him alot and be interested in things he does, or is doing, laugh at things he says, even if you don't find it that funny. Flirting is a good way of finding out if someone likes you without actually having to ask them out.
Hope it goes well x
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