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writes:I have a problem. I fall in love very easily and normally is unconditional. In that aspect no other woman catches my eye. Now I did it again but, she does not feel the same. Therefore my question is how can I stop falling so quickly. That way when I fall again it will not happen so quickly and that way I can be sure the other party is interested. Reply to this Question
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (2 March 2009):
 Mate I just would like to share a bit of light here: True love is not always reciprocated. True Love is when one loves another weather that person loves them or not in return for all the qualities that that person has. someone does not have to love you back for it to be true love.
People can feel "True Love" withought ever the other person knowing at all. all true love is, is that its pure and genuine from the heart that feels it and expresses it.
Being "in love" can also be both: where the peron you love is reciprocated. "OR" it can actually mean that you are in love with another person but you may not know if the other person loves you back.
Its really that simple.
Cheers.
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reader, Joshgw22 +, writes (2 March 2009):
 I don't mean to offend you but it may be possible that the solution lies in understanding that maybe... you don't have a true understanding of the difference between being "IN LOVE" and "LOVING" someone. It's just my opinion so please take no offense to anything i write. I just want to throw you a new idea to consider. I believe that true love or true "IN "LOVE" can't happen in the way you say you fall in love [easily and im guessing somewhat often] A good hearted person who is genuinlly kind and honest is naturally going to love the people in their lives, the ones they interact with regularly, and when one of those people happens to be of the opposite sex and you are attracted to them too; In my opinion it might be rather difficult differentiating between another person you care and "love", from suddenly "falling in love". I think you probably are a good hearted person who is genuinly kind and honest, and you may , becouse of your loving and accepting nature for people, you frequently develop relationship that you love, and are only a little confused about the distinction between "TRUE LOVE" I would like to hear what you think about this, You should also consider the very real possibility that, now brace yourself... I am horribly dumb and by just reading my idea your ears have just been poluted by a bad case of idiocracy! lol I think its worth considering and if i am wrong I hope to god its not quite as bad as i just wrote. I do however, don't think you have a "problem" this world needs more people who don't have a problem loving their neighbor. I just think that maybe all you need is to understand that even though you feel strongly about a person and haven't any trace of infidelity anywhere in you with these people, that it's not true love. again in my opinion "TRUE LOVE" is always reciprocated. If it's not Its probably not true love.
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reader, Griffo +, writes (2 March 2009):
I dont think one is able to tell when he or she falls in love it just happens when it does. Consider yourself very lucky to experience this - unfortuatley not many people get to have this gift most peopl only experience once, twice or mabey three times in their liftime.
One thing you could do is take the ever romantic task of not telling the next love you meet you love her. let it grow in her first, in her heart and in time she will express her love for you, she will know when you begin to love her and she will likley enjoy the anticipation and the sexual tention. so next time keep it to yourself and let it grow in her heart, she will give you the signs when she is ready.
let me know how you go with it.
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