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writes:We'v been married for 1 year and 4 months, but I find that our sex life is winding down. Recently, the frequency has changed from once a week to once in two weeks. Obviously, my self confidence is taking a bashing as I don't understand what his problem is. He would rather watch tv till 12pm than be intimate with me. We do not fight or argue about anything, he holds me when he sleeps but he cannot have sex with me. I know its not erectile dysfunction. I've brought up the topic many times, but he brushes it off. Its as if he has no interest in sex @ all. Is this normal? I feel as if I am missing out on a real marriage! Don't get me wrong, I don't expect to be @ it like bunnies, but I do expect my husband to be interested in me more than once a week. Wat am I doing wrong. Please advise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011): talk to him,and if his explanation isnt forthcoming just pry and see if hes cheating ,its a possibility
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reader, hugsley  +, writes (8 April 2011):
 Hi anonymous i am glad you said he holds you when he sleeps that is a very good sign that he is still in love with you.I think maybe you might have to look outside the square on this and try something totally different to what you have been doing since you have been married.Dont change to much on what you have been doing just yet add a little at a time like, wear sexy lingerie with a open short slip while he is full on watching tv come up behind him and give him a hug and a kiss tell him you love him then pass him a nice drink then pretend to look for some think under or near the tv make sure you bend right over in front of the t.v so he can not miss the invite. Then you go back to him and say baby i love you i need you i want you now our love life is now in a new direction i will be waiting for you in bed then, give him a kiss and leave the room dont foget this is only my thoughts you might have tried it already but i think you would have got him to think about what you said about the change in direction of your love life ok. Dont forget if it works and he does come up with you or a little later do the change in direction like you said.there are many other things that could get your relationship back on track but like i said before small change is better then full on change as you have more control with it. hope the advice i gave you works ok. If you need more help on this or another issue i am here to try and help ok.
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reader, Dragonflycatcher07  +, writes (8 April 2011):
You're not doing anything wrong. I bet you're a beautiful women. I was in a relationship for 2 years. He started rejecting me all the time to where he'd turn it on me saying I was a nympho, but all I wanted was for him to want me because I loved him. I ended up cheating and he left me. A year later he's back. Everything was good but then it was all the same. I knew he'd watch porn and I checked his phone. I UNDERSTAND how you feel it messes with you mentally, emotionally we're broken up now. I'm dealing with the pain but I honestly would much rather be alone than rejected sexually. My advice is to make it work if it doesn't think truly honestly if that's the kind of marriage you want for the rest of your life.
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