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I dwell on things, how can I be more assertive?

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Question - (30 July 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 1 August 2010)
A age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I always let what people say to me get to me and bring me down. I've had run-ins with ex-friends years ago that I still dwell upon and let it affect how I feel. I dwell upon a lot of things that people have said to me and it keeps running through the back of my mind. I try to think positively, but then sometimes I think it is true- that maybe I am a bad friend or bad person. I think this also makes me an easy target- people seem to enjoy yelling at me. I try to stand up for myself, but I usually don't know what to say so I just stand there quietly. I know that I can't let every little thing get to me because then I'll never be happy. How can I start being more assertive and not let every little thing bring me down?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010):

Hey lovely, right your in a bit of a pickle, first of all, dont ever think your a bad person!

how could you think that about yourself? respect who you are! be proud of who you are!

Start looking at yourself in the mirror and TELL yourself how good you are, yes yes yes it sounds corny, but seriously it works, the first thing you need to do is convince yourself your better than all this and people will start to realise.

Have some confidence, dont care about what people say to you! Who are they to you if their bringing you down ey?

Take sometime to focus on yourself, do things that will make you happy, dont give one about anyone else girl, do what YOU want!

Hope things progress, let me know how things go,

m u c h l o v e XXX

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