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writes:I finally left my husband after 26 years of marriage. I have been separated now for eight months and I began dating recently and met a man I get along with very well. However I think that the intimacy we shared has uprooted feelings about my husband and now I feel unsettled and upset. I ended up dumping him and then completely changing my mind the following day and asking him to take me back. Now I feel that I've ruined everything because although we are back together I feel that he is not trusting of me and is unsure about me. Has anyone got any advice, what can I do to make amends, or is there no way to make amends? Reply to this Question
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reader, Beaurosie +, writes (16 August 2011):
Beaurosie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou for your answer Lucky. You are right I am not over my husband but I am so lonely and I so want to be loved.. its really hard because I'm scared too of getting hurt all over again so I am being ultra sensitive to situations which make me re-act this way.
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reader, Lucky786  +, writes (16 August 2011):
 There are 2 issues here, one is the unresolved feelings for your ex-husband and the second is your boyfriend's insecurity caused by your change of heart after dumping him.Honestly? I don't blame him for feeling insecure, he is going to be cautious for fear of getting hurt. You can't change that overnight. You have to show him you are committed to him and this relationship 100% and don't dump him again, unless you really mean it. Are you really over your ex-husband? Have you gotten over a 26-year relationship in 8 months? Ask yourself.
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