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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hey ppl help me again pls!!a month ago, i broke up wit my bf of 1yr and a half, coz my feelings were fading gradually and coz i really missed being single since he was my first bf and i met him wen i just turned 15. he really didnt wanna break up, but wen i told him it cant work coz i really wanna be single, he agreed but is still a bit clingy..understandably. here is d worst prob...just a month later, i hav fallen badly for another guy and him for me, and weve been dating around but i dnt wanna get into another relationship coz im scared ill end up in the same situation and ill break my ex's heart which i dnt wanna do! i told this new guy my story, and he agreed so we r plannin of dating for a while. in 4months i hav big exams coming up so we decided to get into a rel after these exams..but ting is, it already feels like a rel but we just havent gone public about it!and its realy hard waitin 4months wen ur really into each other!in the meantime, my ex is realy hurting and i feel so guilty and bitchy..but i really cant control wat my heart feels. i wish i cud!if i cud,id stil be wit my ex...pls help me i dnt kno wat to do!:(
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reader, ady  +, writes (28 January 2007):
 Follow up your heart and do not listen to any others ; Since it is known that the feeling can not give wrong discussion;
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ady
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2007): Avoid your ex, and focus on your current needs and wants. That's the simplest most direct way in handling this situation without thinking too thoroughly about any specifics. Bluntly put, whatever your ex feels right now is his problem and not your's. You may be the cause, but he needs to learn over time and effort on his part to let go of those lingering feelings he has for you.
Also, don't 'wish' you can still be with your ex. Those thoughts as bluntly put again, are meaningless and just merely emotions of guilt that make you say and think such things. The world can be quite disgusting and very harsh. Let him deal with it on his own.
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