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writes: HiI finished with a girl I had been seeing as things were great then they were not. I have not been with anyone serious for years. This girl really made an impact on me, she was pretty different, fun no hangups. Although she start getting pretty keen which kind of freaked me out. I seem to be very fussy. When I finished with her she was very upset and wanted to talk about it I didn't really want to. We had a hug and I said take care. When I was close to her, and she hugged me I kind of felt something even though I had just told her I wanted to finish it. I thought she would contact me today and nothing. Maybe I have started to regret it already. Why am I feeling like this?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2006): What arrogance! What do you want: for her to come crawling via email, text or phone calls to beg you to take her back?
You say you were "finished" with her. She wanted to talk about it and you "really didn't want to." What - do you think you can throw someone away as if they are an old soda can you've finished drinking?
Maybe what you "felt" when you hugged her was a little sexual stirring.
Well, too bad, buddy. Good for her not to contact you and puff up your ego by showing how "desirable" you are!
Learn from it!
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reader, Nikita  +, writes (15 December 2006):
 Hi anon, well im not sure why you would want her to contact you after you've just dumped her. Did you think that she would be so devasted that she would try and make you change your mind in some way. you cant expect the girl to contact you after you've just hurt her. she's probably excepted it and is trying to get on with her life. i suggest you do the same. dont mess her around by contacting her and saying you've regretted dumping her. thats not fair if you're not completely certain. i would leave her to get on with her life now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2006): Well if you really have to ask the question about regretting it I think you already know the answer to this question..... You probably did her a big favour! She's been the stronger, braver person in all this! The one thing that is hardest to do when a couple break up is to contact them either via email/txt/calls etc and she seems to be doing that very well as its getting under your skin and upsetting you more than her!!!I say fair play to her and she can walk tall and proud knowing that she didnt go crawling back to you begging you 2 take her back!
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (15 December 2006):
 Well hopefully she has exepted it and will move on to a better person. Men like you make me laugh, you finish with the poor girl because she is fun with no hang ups and likes you a lot. (WELL WHAT A CRIME THAT IS). Now you are wondering why she is not crawling on her hands and knees to you. What did you expect?
The girl most likely doesnt know you have done her a favour.
Sorry for being like this to you, but you need to grow up. And stop playing games with people
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (15 December 2006):
 She probably accepts that you don't want her. What concerns me is, why do you expect her to contact you after you finished with her? It seems like you are playing games with her.
What would you say to her if she did contact you? If you want to speak to her and want her back, then it is up to you to call her. Don't play games, they are not fair.
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