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30-35,
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writes:Hi. So me and my girlfriend are on a break due to our age difference I’m 10 years younger than her and this scares her as she feels she’ll hold me back. Anyway. Went out on Saturday and got very drunk woke up Sunday morning to see if text her. Now what I had said was pretty much that I want to make a go of it and that I really like her and realised what I was getting into before I did. So my question is do you think it was a bad move as what I said was nice but wrong time as it’s come through a break....
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 February 2018):
 It was a moderately bad move.
Meaning, that yes, if you are on a break, and you are supposed to stay no contact, and she let you know rgar she needs some space to sort her feelings out etc.etc., then you make think that you have been sweet and cute, bir mostly you have been annoying since you did not rrspect your agreements and did not let her have her space. Plys, drunk texting ?... Sooo juvenile, that may reinfirce her impression that you are too " Young " - aka immature- for her.
Then again... she is older than you, and I am pretty sure that she knows what's drunk texting and what it is about and that , with the best intentions- some times it happens because people get overwhelmed and carried away and under the influence they feel that just HAVE TO emore , whether it's smart doing it or not. No big deal. Just a very common, very minor misshap; it won't be a drunk text that will break or save your relationship.
Let her be now. She may reply, she may not... let her have her space . Do not make things worse sending a second text to justify why you sent the first, and a third to explain the second etc.
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reader, N91  +, writes (11 February 2018):
 There's nothing you can do now, just forget about it.
Wait for her to contact you and see what happens. If she doesn't, then don't start sending anymore messages, draw a line under it and move on as desperation is extremely off putting.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 February 2018):
 If you said nothing bad, it wasn't a totally bad thing. However, if might also be "AMMO" against you. The fact that you didn't respect the "break and no contact". And that you are texting drunk (which can be viewed as immature).
You did it, you hit send. LET it go. If she doesn't reply or don't want to talk about it. RESPECT it.
And no more drunk texting. It doesn't make you look better in ANY book, not matter how "cute" or "sweet" the things said were.
Just don't.
Give her the SPACE she has asked for. You can't MAKE her want to date you if she is having doubts. certainly not with drunken texts OK?
Shit happens, OP
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