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writes: my bf and i have nearly been together for a year, i love him and he loves me but recently i've had dreams about another guy i work with which involved kissing but nothing more. i dont even like the guy in that way but now i'm obsessing over it all and dont understand why. my bf doesnt know because we've been having a rocky time at the moment. I just want to know why i'm having these dreams which i most certianly do not want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2006): I think especially since you and your BF are having a rocky time...your brain in sleep mode is exploring avenues of some other attractive male that appears to be nice.
I don't think this is cheating but rather your mind just hoping and missing something that you and BF seem to lack as of now.
Just don't worry too much over a dream and don't put too much into it as your mind will start to wonder and develop "what if" scenarios of the other guy.
Just put more efforts into loving your guy. Seems easy I know but I have been on the rocky road just a few weeks ago and I decided to let go of my anger and hurt and just focus on forgiving and loving. We are no longer on that rocky road and the roads to communication are better than ever.
Just hang in there Sweetie.
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reader, bonym  +, writes (10 August 2006):
 Katherine my dear, please dont worry. Even though I am one of those people that believes SOME dreams are significant, NOT ALL are so dont worry about this. If you say that you dont even like him, why are you worrying, Sometimes, if not every night I dream absoulute foolishness I have had a similar dream to you, but I didnt worry because I knew that I never liked him like that and maybe I just dreamt him because his face was one I would see every day at work and my brain decides to put his face in my dream one night!!!! I totally agree with Dr Psych as well, I think you are a bit anxious about your present relationship and this dream is just one way of trying to make sense of the anxiety you are going through, but it is just a dream and nothing more, you havent cheated. You are a very considerate person to be fretting over this because obviously you care deeply for your boyfriend and dont want to do anything that may upset him, but rest assured, you have done nothing wrong, its just a nonsense dream. Dont worry. xXx
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (10 August 2006):
 First of all I would say stop worrying - dreams are just your brain blowing off steam while you are in deep sleep. I know that some people think you can interpret dreams as messages from the unconscious mind but I am not too sure about that! Even if you believe that, dreams don't have a literal meaning i.e. just because you dream you are cheating doesn't mean you will. Also, you only remember fragments of what you are dreaming so you have to put this in context. I think, at best, your dreams could be a general reflection of anxiety related to your current relationship. Perhaps you think he doesn't trust you or maybe you don't trust him? Instead of thinking about your dreams, which are just unconscious thought patterns at the end of the day (if you believe they are meaningful at all) try to focus on the conscious real world aspects of your relationship with your partner. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2006): there is somthing about this guy that u like.it could be because he's fun to be around or that calm presence just to get away from the problems of your relationship rather than tackle them.a kiss can lead to anything!think about what is wrong wiv your bf??ask yourself that!
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