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writes: My b'f is overseas working, long distance, and when he goes out with his mates to the pubs, he drinks- gets tipsy, and when he drinks too much, he calls me or sends me texts early hours of the morning saying he misses me, and that he cant go on without me, and that he can't take this pain anymore and that he doesnt deserve this. then when he sobers up, he says that he was emotional and sad, and thats he's sorry..I hate when the weekend comes as he often does this leaving me worried, I 've told him, and he apologised, but I really dislike when I get these suprise messages leaving me blank and concerned, wondering if he is going to do something silly.
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reader, missbunbury  +, writes (18 March 2006):
 This guy is a really sloppy drunk, as many men are. If it's been going on for a while, I think the best thing to do is for you to talk about it with him when he's sober, and come up with a plan that'll keep you both happy. My suggestion would be for him to stop taking his phone with him on nights out, or if he's calling when he gets in, he could deliberately let the phone battery run out before going out, so that it'll need charging before he can call you. That might give him time to sober up. I don't think you need to worry too much about him doing anything silly. I do think, though, that it might be worth you two desicussing the bigger issue of being apart from each other - does he feel you don't see enough of each other? Could anything be done to improve this? It doesn't sound like he's particularly happy with things, and neither are you, so whilst I appreciate logstics may get in the way, you two should try and do everything possible to make sure you feel as close as possible - maybe more phone calls (SOBER ones!), or even try writing letters to each other if you don't already.
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