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26-29,
*loody_bystander
writes:i'm bi, and so is my best friend. we both have boyfriends. the thing is, im in love with her...every day i enjoy seeing her. we hug and constantly flirt (sometimes people think we're lesbians, but we dont care...we tell eachother we love eachother so hey why not)i've givin her obvious hints on how i REALLY feel about her, but not quite sure if she gets it. i THINK she likes me to...but not certain. every time she stays the night at my house, we stay up all night and talk,watch movies,text eachother...and cuddle (i.e. sit there listening to music or watching movies while leaing on eachother, and caressing) and those are the times i never want to end. I just have no idea what to do about this...i have high doubts she will leave her boyfriend for me (him and i compete alot for her)...and i cant go on knowing that she didnt want me as much as i wanted her...alot. and if she does like me back what do I, do about it? please help...
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reader, Bloody_bystander +, writes (9 January 2011):
Bloody_bystander is verified as being by the original poster of the question good news...she dumped her bf...but i'm not leaving mine...we discussed it, and she actually does feel the same way, but she said i clearly don't want to leave my boyfriend...so she said she will always be there as a really close friend when i need it :)...thanx
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (3 January 2011):
 You need to think about what is more important to , having her as a friend or her knowing your real feelings for her. If you decided to tell her how you feel and she does not the feel the same it could affect your relationship, but that is up to you.
When it comes to telling her how you feel then hinting is no good, you need to tell her exactly how you feel and what you want, but make it clear to her that is it is not what she wants then that is oki and you want to remain friends with her.
hope this helps =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): Hey there!
Be obvious with your feelings. Hints do not work as they are indirect and implied communication which risks the message not to be completely conveyed. Just tell her how you feel and ending her relationship just to be with you, with all respect, would be selfish of you to ask or even consider. Im trying to understand your sexuality here. Really, I am. I think it puts you in a tough spot. To avoid any drama, I wouldnt take things to another level at all with ur friend unless she's single and youre single, logically put. Anything else mixed between whil you guys are seeing other people will create a whole lot of drama that I wont wanna see the next time I tune into Maury lol :). Good luck.
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