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writes:I've been seeing this man for 3 months now. He's 22 and I'm 17. There's nothing wrong with that where I live, except for the job he holds. This has required us to keep it a secret until I'm 18, which I have been fine with. Yesterday he pretty much tried ending things because as he says, "he's paranoid and has a lot at stake." And I totally agree, but he makes me beyond happy. I've never met anyone like him that's made me feel this way and I don't want to lose him. I also don't want to wait around for him for 6 more months with absolutely no contact, it'd kill me. He said we'll try just talking because letting go for him isn't easy either. And to give him suggestions of what we could do. That's my question, what do I do? :( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe isn't married, I know this for a fact. I've been to his home several times and my dad used to work with him. I told him to be honest with me because if he was hiding something I'd leave him alone..he swore on everything that he isn't lying or hiding anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2012): I am sorry honey but what job does this man hold that makes your age an issue? Unless he is in politics or something of the like, I can't see how it should be an issue.
His comment that he has made about being paranoid and having alot at stake raises red flags.
I dont think he is being honest with you, I have had a friend in a simallar situation, and it turned out he was married.
You have only been with this man for 3 months, what do you really know about him?
Please be wise about this, your young and I know the idea of this man loving you is great but honey there is too much about this that is not right. Protect your heart and end it with him, if he is really in this and he really is honest with you he will come back. But from what you write he is hiding something.
Good Luck sweety.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (10 November 2012):
 It won't kill you, even if at the end things change. You just have to make a firm decision to stick with him, and trust that he will do the same. Or end things before he officially does this, because he has already tried to. What do you mean by no contact then you say just talking? I feel there is something else going on because he knew the taboo of dating young girls yet he went into a relationship with you, or at least made you feel you were in a relationship. I don't know what he meant by paranoid and lot at stake. What you should do is agree with his decision but at the back of your mind accept whatever outcome in the future. If he comes back to you then he's yours. If he doesn't, you know he is a jerk for playing with your time, and that you mean so little to him. It's only his fault for getting involved with a young girl. There are many more men who can make you happy without needing to hide you.
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