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writes:my gf is 23 and live far away from me in brazil.we are together 2 years now.the problem is that she never wants to speak about our future and the probability to live one day in my country (we are agree that it would be difficult for me to work in brazil).she always tells me that our relationship is really serious, but her career is much more important than it. she asks me to wait for her at least 5 other long years,the time she needs to buid up her career and to see what she really wants to do in her life.i'm really confused,i love her but i can't wait so much cause it's really hard for me to be so far and she knows that. i understand her fears, that she needs to be sure she will be able to find a job quickly in her country if everything gone bad between us.in other way i feel that if she realise her dream, she will never have the courage to let everything for me.she's really unsure person and i don't know how to convince her to not be so scared about future.do you think she need time to know me better and that will help to change her mind?should i stop to believe in us? Reply to this Question
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reader, blissxixta  +, writes (29 November 2007):
 It's everywoman dream to have a home, build her family and like u said she is 23 ...five more years isnt not too much...or are u afriad u lose her?...concentrate on how to build your relationship ....and be more interest in what could last up. Never force a relationship and make sure u both agree before any decision. Good communication will do ...and maybe she needs time to really know if she could be somebody.
Goodluck
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