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writes: Hi,I've been seeing my boyfriend a couple of months now. I went on a girls night out and got really drunk. My single friend really liked this guy so when she was chatting to him I chatted to his friend. His friend tried to kiss me so I told him I had a boyfriend but then as we chatted a bit longer, I went away from the bar and kissed him. As soon as I did it I realised it was a mistake and backed off. The kiss meant nothing and it was just the fact that I was drunk that I did it. It was a drunken mistake. My friends saw but I trust they won't tell him. I feel really terrible about it but don't want to tell him because it meant nothing and don't see the point in causing a trust issue when things are well in the relationship.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (6 December 2011):
 Whether it meant nothing or not, regardless if you were drunk (don't blame it on the booze), you still cheated. Kissing is cheating!
Your actions would create a trust issue...lying about it now, is still a trust issue. Are you positive your friends won't tell your boyfriend? What if they let it slip? What if one of your boyfriend's friends saw this take place?
You feel bad about it, but can you truly forget about it and move on?
Can you trust yourself not to kiss another guy the next time you're out with friends and drunk?
IMO, I think you should come clean. Eventually you're going to spill it because of a guilty conscience.
But you've already made up your mind that you're going to forget this infidelity and move on, thus answering your own question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just want to know, is it ok to think, well it was a stupid mistake that happened in the first couple of months, I know I feel bad and therefore know I wouldn't do it again. I feel that there's no need to hurt him because the kiss didn't last long at all and nothing came of it and I didn't think anything at the time apart from 'I shouldn't have done that'. I want to be with this guy and don't think there's any need to bring up something that could create a trust issue and spoil the relationship because I knew as soon as I'd done it that it was a mistake and it meant absolutely nothing. I guess if it was the other way around (because its a new relationship) I probably would rather he didn't tell me, feel bad and then just never do it again. I think its best for me to forget about it and move on. I have felt bad, I don't want him to as well. Do you think its ok to think this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2011): Sorry OP but you already created the trust issue by going off with a guy who already tried to kiss you and kissing him later instead. So whether he can trust you or not is already an issue because you cheated on him (in my personal view anyway.)
I personally would want to know so I could dump you. Harsh but honest.
My questions to you are this. If it meant nothing then why do it? Because you were drunk? Then he can't you trust you while drunk then OP. Are you going to get drunk again? Then he can't trust that it won't happen again.
I wouldn't worry about it though OP because I don't think you will tell him, not only that but most people I know forgive kisses pretty easily. Personally I dump girls who kiss others, there's nothing special about a kiss with a girl who can go off and kiss other people and have that kiss "mean nothing". I especially have no tolerance for women who think it's okay to kiss other women "for fun" when in a relationship with me.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (5 December 2011):
So what's your question??? How can we help you?
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