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writes: Hi, I hope you will be able to help me--I've always felt self-conscious about my body and I lost a lot of weight, (because I was like 205 pounds but got down to 130 doing exercise and changing my eating) but I have all this flabby skin especially around my stomach area and my bf likes to touch em there! i told him i don't like him to touch it just because i feel like it's ugly and i don't wnat to destroy this beautiful image of what he thinks my body looks like in his mind--he always says he loves how i look nd my shape, but i still feel ugly and just unattractive allllll the time---he asked one time if he could see my stomach and i said no...and it was the same for my arms because i'm saggy erveyrhere since i lost weight--i don't want to show him that side of me--is this worong? does neone have any tips on how to get over this? thanks a lot Reply to this Question
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reader, smile_gurl +, writes (25 January 2006):
You don't have to worry at all!! Till this day, I feel I have a tummy. I used to be very ashamed of it in the beginning but just one time when my bf saw it, I never worried about it anymore. If this guy really loves you, he would accept you the way you are. Even after telling him that you don't want to ruin his image in his mind, he still wants to see your body, I don't think he would freak out.If it truly is love, he wouldn't care about the flab!! Have more confidence.Just once, show it to him. I am sure he will love it. =] Good Luck
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reader, mystify +, writes (25 January 2006):
 if hes a good boyfriend he will help you get over it, i used to really hate by bum and i didnt let ANYONE see it not even long term boyfriends, but when i met my husband he made me feel so good about myself he made me feel sexy for who i was, he taught me that you dont have to look like girls in magazines to be sexy and that most men prefer women with a 'bit of bounce'
now i have a bigger butt than ever before and all that excess skin you say you have from when i put on 5 1/2 stone! when i was pregnant TWICE! BUT i have never felt sexier!
now i walk around completely naked in front of him!
It sounds like this guy loves you the way you are let him compliment you , listen to what he says , let him make you feel sexy, you will soon become in your mind the godess he sees with his eyes and when you do you will both enjoy the getting naked so much more!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2006): Sounds like he loves you for what you are. He wont have any delusions about the way you look, we see ourselves in a worse light than we actually look.You've found someone who adores you. Keep hold of him!
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