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writes:My girlfriend broke up with me 4 days before my birthday. i was so devastated even though i already see it coming. we are on a long distance relationship and we are both girls. she is way younger than me. we met cause of an exchange program. we had lots of plans but none of that happened. she's just 20 so cant decide for her self yet. we were great together happy. but she needs to go back to her country. its been a year since we got separated. then on the problem started. mainly due to no time and distance. she broke up with me saying she change already, she said every time we talked on the phone she feels depressed, that our values and personalities doesn't match, and doesn't want to lie on her self any more. we ended the conversation calm and civil. the next day i phoned her asking to get back together but she said she not changing her mind. so i left it like that, i never contact her after that. she greeted me a day late for my birthday. i just replied saying plain thank you. after 2 weeks of no contact she mailed me again saying she's going to send me a gift for my birthday but its going to be late. i didn't reply, then after 3 days she mailed me again asking for help about her stuff. i didn't reply to anything, its been 1 week since she last email me. honestly i still love her and i want her back. but i don't want to be hurt again. i don't want to give my self false hope and i don't wanna get back from the start,on the process of moving on. but i don't want to push her totally out of my life. what should i do? should i reply or not? and what should i say?sorry for long mail. thanks for reading and responding. appreciate it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjust an update.i got her birthday gift. she told me on her letter that she is moving to different place because of school. she said " i would email you my new address on facebook (if you ask me to)she mentioned her moving like 3 times on her letter.is there any possibilities that she still likes me? or she's just being friendly? i know only she can answer my question. im starting to move on bit by bit. hopefully soon.
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reader, cutiegirly500  +, writes (11 March 2011):
 You shouldn't ignore her completley from your life.
Reply to her emails and speak to her more, and maybe you two can get back together if you talk more and more. and after some time ask her out again and explain how you feel about her, make her know how you feel about her. and if she still says no you have to just some way move on, something like that happened to me once, i loved this girl in my school and she found out how i felt about her and she regected me straight away i was really sad and took some time, but i finally got over her and moving on with my daily life, you should do the same too :)
Good luck
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