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writes:Hello all, I am 20 and in college and i've got a crush on my lab partner from my BIO class and I dont know what to do. I am terrible at reading women (as i'm sure most guys are) and I cant tell if she likes me or not.We both like seeing plays and we are going to one very soon and talking about going to one in a few months. My problem is that I dont want to make a move and ask her or anything because if I do and it doesn't work, then it will be really weird for that class in the future. But at the same time I dont want to get trapped in the "just friends" zone either; assuming that it could go anywhere.I just dont know what to do becuase it seems as if im screwed no matter which path I choose to follow. Too much can go wrong too quickly.Any advice?
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reader, gabba's say  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 well you are in there. Foot in the door at least. play it cool. you will know if she wants it. tell her politly why you asked her out, I.E. You really like her and would like to get to know her a bit better. Dont be pushy and dont be too shy. She must be intersted or she would have knocked you back. You just have to read her body language. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk so I asked her if she wanted to go to dinner the noght of the play. She smiled and said yes. So how should I handle this one?
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reader, gabba's say +, writes (14 February 2008):
shy children get no sweeties. take the plunge ask her or text her if you have her number. The knock-back can be terrifying, I know as I have the same problem. rejection is not the end of the world and you never know, Women do change their minds when there rude thoughts come into play when they are alone in bed with nothing but their thoughts and restless fingers.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (14 February 2008):
 Awwww arn't you a Sweety! I think you should go and have a nice time to theatre and then go for a meal afterwards. You never know she probably feels the same too. All you can do is ask, if she says yes, great!! and then take it from there. Let me know the outcome. Dusky xxx.
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reader, Honor +, writes (14 February 2008):
I think you should perhaps try a bit of flirting with her - but not heavy flirting, just very slight / mild and see what her reaction is. If she is responsive then you can take it a bit further, ie flirt a bit more etc etc and see how it progresses. If she isn't mirroring your flirting then you know she may not be interested in you on that level. So at the same time you will save face because if you are flirting just a tiny bit as it wont be so over the top to say you were hitting on her, and even can just be seen as being a bit friendly or "guy-like".
Also pay her compliments - just like say you like her top or shoes or whatever. Gauge her reaction to those things and also check out her body language around you. Does she look you in the eyes, does she go shy, is she touchy-feely etc.
Good luck! x
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