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writes:There's this guy I've known mainly on Facebook for about 6 months. He's 17 and i'm 18.His parents saw me talking to him and scolded him badly for it and forbade him to talk to me again. i don't understand why. however, he still keeps in touch with me on Facebook and now we are in love. He likes me so much and says that I'm nice and pretty, only a bit overweight. haha! He thinks that when his exams are over in 2 years, his parents won't worry about him so much and will let him do what he wants. i don't talk with him anymore cos of that problem, but we message each other. What should I do about this? I love him so much. But i don't want to make his parents angry, cos i like them very much too, and respect them. I really like to talk with him too though i don't. I'm so sadddd..... :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2010): You are 18 and legally and adult and depending on the laws in your area, he is most likely over the age of consent.If this is indeed the case, then what your parents think is entirely irrelevant lawfully.Maybe as a Westerner, I'm used to having that freedom so much that I take it for granted, but you cannot be an adult until you realise that its defining characteristic is making decisions on our own, regardless of how others might feel about them.This is particularly true in matters of the heart. I would be angry and upset if my family was not all that accepting of someone I chose to have a relationship with. But family or not, I would tell them to get stuffed.Sometimes you have to follow your heart. And if it turns out thats the wrong decision, a real family will be there to help you if it turns sour.Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2010): Well, this may take a lot of confidence to do, but my suggestion would be consider talking to the parents, ask them to give you a reason, and reassure them that you're who you say you are, and that you really really love their son. That in mind however, this may give them an inkling that you've still been messaging and getting him into trouble. It's a 50-50 risk/reward really. Whether you settle for your current situation or act on it is entirely up to you. And may I just say, you really must love him to show such devotion and care. :)
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reader, CupidsPrincess  +, writes (17 September 2010):
Teens are tempestuous times. So maybe his parents just wanted to make sure you guys don't end up in anothing bad and risky! And he is only 17! At such a young age it is mostly infatuation and you usually grow out of it. So take it easy with his parents. Ask him to ask his parents why he cannot talk to you FB or if they are angry at him for using websites like FB...Get it cleared.
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