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writes: i'm 23 years old and married for 2 years now, recently me and my husband has been addicted to this online game, we haven't really have time for each other anymore, we don't go out like we used to. Well, I met this guy from an online game, he was cool and all, i never really told him my status, i just said i was single, from then on we started talking alot and feelings started building up. I never thought it would go this far, now i'm going out with him. We would talk on the phone, but when my husband is home, i would go in the other room, while his in our room playing, but i know his starting to notice. I like how this online guy is giving me the attention that i'm not getting from my husband, but i know its wrong and i need to stop before both feelings gets hurt. I don't know what to do anymore, i would try argue nonsense with this online guy i'm going out with just so he would break up wit me, but after he just keeps coming back. I still love my husband and i don't want to lose him. But i also don't want to hurt this online guy i met in game, he told me how his been hurt before many times and i know telling him the truth will be the worst, his already saying he loves me and wants to be with me. I don't know what to do...*sigh*
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reader, Jerry James Paul  +, writes (12 April 2010):
You don't have to think twice for crying out loud.You don't have to trade your marriage for the online guy.Remember the vows you took on the alter for better for worst, in sickness and in health,in poverty and in riches until dead do us part.Let the online guy not be an assunder to your marriage for what God has joint let no man put an assunder.Better hurt the online guy and keep your husband you love.Try to make your husband know the situation,by that he might give you the attention you need its a small thing since he loves you and you love him too.Remember you're in the game together and he is not cheating on you,so please don't cheat on him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): Grow up! Tell online guy,stop speaking to him all the time, you don't spend enough time with your husband- not the other way round!
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reader, LoveGirl  +, writes (9 April 2010):
I am looking into my crystal ball and I see you losing both your hb and your online bf
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reader, WHAT NEXT ?  +, writes (9 April 2010):
Hi
I have been through exactly the same thing.
I was unhappy in my marriage and didn't know what to do about it.I met a man online who was my perfect man ,or so I thought.
I never lied about anything and he knew about me being married.I told my husband, hurt him badly, and my marriage ended.My perfect man almost backed off instantly,because he had to step up to the plate and he had no intentions of doing so. I wasn't the only one, he often got caught out sending naughty text to someone else but sending them to me by accident.My perfect man was very dishonest ,whilst all the time saying he could be trusted, and I lost everything.My perfect man blew hot and cold and never really lets me go,which in the end felt like mental cruelty .I have now ended it for good.
I might be wrong about your man,but please think very carefully.
My problem was boredom and lack of self esteem,are you sure that's not what you are feeling ?
If you need to talk about it with someone who knows how you feel,feel free to contact me.
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (9 April 2010):
 Ok so you've drifted apart from your husband, due to online gaming(the bane of my existence) and as he is ignoring you for this game, you have found the attention you crave from this game and the people you meet there and in particular this one guy. You've shared a lot with this guy and he has with you. But remember, this is not a REAL relationship. In the sense that it's not a full relationship. You havnt spoken face to face. You are not physically there with each other as you and your husband are. Therefore I think it will be easy(ish) for this guy to get over you and move on with his life. Where as you husband, loved you enough to take those vows with you, and is your husband. You havnt actually cheated in the physical real sense, so there's no need to hurt yout husband by telling him about this.
You need to end it with this other guy if you want your marriage to work. Just tell this guy it's over. You dont have to tell him the truth. Tell him anything. Tell him you've met someone in real life. Tell him you can't cope with your online relationship because you know you can never truely be together and its breaking your heart etc. Then just cut him off. It will hurt him, but its the kindest thing you can do. Honestly. If you carry one and he finds out about your husband or vica versa this will hurt them. The shit will hit the fan and you could end up alone. I'd suggest you try and save your marriage, if you still love your husband.
I know how it feels when your partner choses a computer game over you. I know how it feels to be ignored and to feel that your boyfriend would rather play games than do anything with you. It doesn't feel good. Games are incredibly addictive. Especially now there is the oppertunity to speak and play with other people over the net. this combines the fun of games with the social interaction of chat. The problem is this is not reality. This is a fantasy world. Everyone needs fantsy and play in there life. But this is a problem when this take over your real life.Your real friends, family and partner.
To get back your life with your hsband, first you need to come off your game and persuade him to come off his. Do something together. Try to have fun and go on dates. Do something you know he'd enjoy and get to know each other again. OR you could join him on his game. In fact do both.
You are currently living separate lives and this will eventually lead to you being strangers to each other. This is really sad and a shame as you clearly have a lot in common! You both love gaming and escaping reality. So why not escape reality together. I dont know what game you paly, but if its a shooter, why not go paintballing or lazerblasting? If its world of warcraft why not go to a convention? Share your passion.
Good luck :)
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (9 April 2010):
 You are cheating on your husband. If you continue with this other guy then you will only hurt your husband more because he WILL find out eventually. End it with this other guy, regardless of his feelings.
My suggestion is to talk to your husband and be honest. If you think your husband isn't paying enough attention to you, tell him. Tell him you've become addicted to this site and wrongfully got too close to another man that has already gone too far. Be honest with him so if you try to end it with this other guy and he becomes a problem, at least your husband knows.
If you don't end it, you will continue to get closer with him and eventually something will happen that you truly regret and at that point your marriage may not be repairable. Read some other posts around here on people who cheated and then really regretted it. You have a chance to avoid that but NOW is that chance.....
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