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writes:I am 18 and he is 21. i actually like this guy from 6 years. we were at high school together in year 9 but now we are in a different countries cuz i moves to USA but he is still in my home country. he is doing his bachelors and so am i. i liked him but i never told him about it tho i think he knew from my friends. After a long time being friends for 6 years we met, his grandparents live here in USA and he came to visit them and before i met him he told me he likes me and wants to get married in future but never metioned that he loves me and we started going out. after meeting each other for 4 months v were happy and he went back.Then he started ignoring me, picked my call and put it down on my face and i neevr rang again. he comes online on msn but never talks on instant messaging i msged him quiet a few times but he ignores and i was fedup and the last msg i sent him saying "you played your name and you won congrats hope you had fun and i will never try to talk to u again BYE", he didnt block me or deleted me from his msn list but only ignores me, i just cant understand whats going on..i asked him if he doesnt want to move on let me know, but he said nothing..last time he chated to me he was acting a bit weird, cuz we have a same social circle with friends he told me that " he found out i have been saying to people that he is after me and i can do anything i want " i told him i didnt say nothing and he belived me an chated to me normally but since then he never chated after that.i love to from so long and i just cant get over it. i cant take this fact that he is ignoring me. i seriosuly dont know what to dohelp me PLZZ and tell me what to do exactly..??? :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2007): I think trust is the large factor in your problem, it sounds like perhaps the relationship just isn't strong enough for it to be kept at long distances.
In this case, from what you've described - he doesn't sound interested or convinced (or even trusts you at that). I think at this stage you have to accept that perhaps he has no intentions of continuing any sort of partnership with you, despite how much you adore him.
Some people just emotionally take a different turn and loose interest, due to distance / life issues & stresses for example.
There are plenty more fish in the sea for you - just ask your self, is he really worth the effort of chasing if he has months of ignoring you? What does that detail to you? Follow your heart madam, and you'll know what to do - stop asking your self questions, because in 99% of chances you'll know the answers but you don't want to believe them.
Try to meet up in person and discuss - go for a coffee, go out for lunch where you can talk about each others values. You may find hes just uncomfortable voicing his true feelings to you, and doesn't know how to tell you something - so is backing out by ignoring you.
I'm sorry to bring such bad news or advice, but from what you've said - I believe this could be the only answer for you.
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