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writes:Well ... I was wondering if this is normal.I'm 14 and I like this guy who is 12. I'm in Grade 8 and he's in Grade 6. This September, he would be in middle school and I'll be in high school.He is considerably shorter than me but he has started growing taller. He's now up to my neck. And his voice has started getting rougher and deeper too.(I feel really pathetic. The guy's basically a kid. And being able to notice this trivial things makes my ego bleed.)But the thing is I've liked him for about two years now but we had this 'falling out'. He has a gf now (who seems quite standoffish to him) and it bothers me. My friend keeps on telling me that I love him and that's why its hard to let go. But I'm too young for love. I just really like him a LOT.I like him so much that I end up punching walls when I get too caught up in my emotions.I hate liking him. Some of my friends poke fun of me for liking a kid (when in fact, he's much more mature than me and he can definitely pull of being a teenager except for his height) and it just makes me embarrassed. But I can't just stop liking him, I've tried really hard but I can't. I've tried to tell myself to just get over him but when I see him or catch him staring at me, my reasons just crumble to dust. I've tried to see if not seeing him for long periods of time would make me stop liking him, but after that, I just feel even more happier when I see him.I've tried to see if being friends with him would make the feelings go away but he won't let me become friends with him. No, its not because he ignores me or anything, its just seems like ... not enough? I don't know. But when I try to talk to him, there's just this deep look in his eyes.I know that I probably sound like every other teenage girl out there and this matter is probably so cliche, that its boring.I just want to know what to do. He's young. And it probably won't last but I don't want to live my life with regrets. There are days when I want to tell him how I feel but then I remember the fact that he has a gf and needs to back off. But then I remember the days before his gf came along, how sweet he was, and I find the strength not to give up.What should I do? Leave them be? -Or act out on my feelings?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): Hi honey, Crush is normal. Believe me I was in there too before. Take it easy its ok. Its part of your puvirty..
Remember you are 14 now youre going to ur teenage now.. Just enjoy it but dont take it too serious ok.. Take care.. by the way I am from the same country of you.. and I have my young Daughter like you too. She's jut like you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): I think you should tell him but don't try and break them up. I think it's best to let him know how you feel. Because when/if him and his girlfriend break up you guys could have a go. And don't be ashamed to like him. I started dating my boyfriend when I was 16, he was 14. He's a year and 5 months younger then me. All my friends poked fun at me too, but you know what? I didn't care. Cuz now im 18 and he just turned 17. Do what your heart feels and don't let anyone stop you from doing what you want. Good luck.
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