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*allygal100
writes:my ex bf cheated on me with this girl. then we broke up and he started dating her. sometime while they were together we hooked up and he cheated on her with me. but then that stopped. the other day she added me under a fake friends account and i accidentally told her what happened. he was mad at me for a few days because she wanted to break up with him.. but now she wants all 3 of us to talk and he wants me to tell her everything was a lie and that i never went to his house while they were together and i only said that to break them up. thing is, i hate lying.. and i actually hate liars. i dont want to lie for him, but i dont kno wat to do because when we talk he will b there and i dont want it to turn into a huge fight. i tried convincing him to just b honest with her but whenever i do he jus gets mad at me. im so sick of all his games. i dont want him to hate me forever, but i cant lie for him. i dont wanna be the bad guy
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2008): You already know the answer to this.A man like this doesn't deserve your loyalty because he's already proved it means nothing.I mean he cheated on you with the girl, broke up with you and became an item with her. Then he cheated on her with you and you inadvertently let her know about it.Why on Earth did you even want to touch the man when he's willing to cheat so easily?He's not loyal to you and most likely never will be until something so bad happens it forces him to re-evaluate his mindset.The man is a player, and until it stops working and both of you girls band together against him, he will not change his stance.So get together and make sure to tell the truth and make sure the other woman believes it, because it is all the more likely she didn't know about you until you told her. And it seems likely it's not a nice thing for her either.One way or another, get this leech as far away from both of you as possible.Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): You say you don't know what to do when you talk. Well just tell them youve changed your mind about the meeting, your not coming. If they hassle you just say you have nothing to say on the matter. Stand firm, your ex seems to think he can bully you about.Good luck
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reader, Krystelle  +, writes (21 March 2008):
if you lie for him it wont end. he'll start using you thinking he can walk all over you. you cannot let that hapen. you need to tell this girl the truth, imagine you being her and not knowing your boyfriend is cheating on you. if you dont like her or whatever thats fine. but you can't let everything stay a lie between them. it's unfair on her and on you. this guy clearly can't be trusted and he wants what he can't have. but your giving him everything he wants. and if he's hooked up with you how can you be sure he didn't with other people? and not just when he was with this other girl but when he was with you. best bet is to tell the truth and then stay clear of this guy. he doesn't sound like someone worth knowing. sorry. xoxo
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