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writes:Hi, I'm 20 years old and in college. I was leaving a restaurant and I saw a young mother who was in my college class last semester, and I'm fairly attracted to this woman and she remembers me from class, so I went over to talk to her. She was still in her car, so to be boyishly playful I folded my arms in the window and rested my chin on my arms, she responded to that really well and began telling me about her classes. I was doing really well to maintain eye contact, but whenever she broke eye contact, I stared at her boobs (which she probably knew that I was doing, but didn't mind because I noticed she wasn't wearing her wedding ring anymore.) and they were huge and practically falling out of her top, and ever since I've been DYING just to play with some healthy breasts, I can't stop thinking about hers, and I don't mean to offend, that's not my intention, I just mean that in an affectionate way, not a sexual one. I don't even want to have sex with this woman, I just want to play with breasts, and I don't want to pay a hooker just to let me play with her boobs. Someone please help. this is what I'm feeling and I don't want anyone to judge me or put me down for that, I'm a young man with desires and I just need some help either controlling this, suppressing it, or just having some woman say that they'd let me play with theirs, i know this isn't a dating website, I just need some encouragement. That's it, but if you can give me some advice on what to do about this woman, that would also be greatly appreciated, I'm pretty sure that she wasn't flirting with me, but she did lean forward towards the window I was listening to her from, almost as if to invite me to look and play with her breasts..I'm hurting about this, and again, i don't want to offend anyone, so if you're offended, please don't comment and bash me for having these feelings....
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (2 December 2012):
Dear CEP -
before we can give you any advice - have you ever had sex before? Or touched breasts or played with breasts? Did you ever have a girlfriend who let you feel her body? Did you enjoy it?
I ask this because maybe if you have never had sex, then of course the number of things you can fantasize about is limited because you can't draw from experience or memories. So I suggest if you don't have much experience, then fantasizing about breasts and nothing else is very normal (you don't know the other things you can fantasize about..). And maybe you're not only hurting about her breasts, but it sounds like this was a very sweet moment for you. You said you're fairly attracted to her and you were flirting, leaning on her window and sharing a moment of closeness.
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reader, CEP +, writes (1 December 2012):
CEP is verified as being by the original poster of the question so there's something wrong with me?? I just saw this woman like two days ago, and I seem to go through phases like this every now and then, but I never act on the feelings I get, and I won't this time unless this woman were to communicate her desire for me to play with her breasts, which there really would be no reason for her to, I don't consider myself to be an attractive young man, definitely not for a woman older than i to want me to just play with her breasts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2012): I'm a Healthy, Monogamous 40 year old woman and I adore when my Fiance plays and smacks, grabs, pulls on my breasts. Sometimes he'll spend more than half an hour just working me up to a sexual, heated frenzy.
Am I abnormal? Are we?
We do so together, monogamously, lovingly in friendship and we both derive pleasure from such attention.
I think what is concerning about your desires is that you are coming across frantic and overly obsessed because you describe it as Hurting.
I agree that maybe you should visit a therapist to, at least talk it out and figure out the extent of this new found desire.
The thing about FETISHES is that they become unhealthy when you feel they control you and you do not control them. Or that is the only way you can acheive orgasm-ejaculation.
Otherwise, work to control your desires and when you are in a TRUSTED, LOVING relationship, explore such things. It could just be a phase.
Only a RELIABLE and PROFESSIONAL Therapist can diagnose/assess you PROPERLY.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (1 December 2012):
 I'm not trying to bash you or make you feel bad, I'm not offended, but I really think maybe you should see a therapist. It's not healthy to feel such an obsession with something that's so lasting. Sometimes we all see hot or attractive people that we know we can't touch or be with, that's normal. Then we move on with our lives, usually very quickly and forget about it. If you're having trouble moving on from this, you should consider talking to a therapist to try to work out why you are having so much trouble getting over the fact that you can't touch her breasts.
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