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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:i really want to have sex with my boyfriend but i want to wait until im married and im scared that i may get pregnant. and im afraid to tell my mom that i want birth control because i have assured her that i wont be having sex until im married. But i have been with him for a long time and he respects me but i want to have sex with him. What should i do?? Please help me!! Love, Horny and helpless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2007): So in other words, you want to lie to your mum because you are ashamed that you are having sex when you said you wouldn't?
If you are really ready for sex then you would be able to talk to your mum about contraception. Instead you are letting the physical desire to have sex take control of what you really want. You need to realise that, it's not just you, every single person who is sexually active knows what it is like when wanting to have sex in that it clouds peoples judgement.
We see so many young girls (and guys) that write on here, wanting to have sex, but aren't even mature enough to be able to talk to their parents or be able to get contraceptive properly. Do you think these people are really ready to have sex? Of course they aren't. It is these same people that probably write back in a few weeks time because they've become pregnant.
I don't want to sound negative here, but the reality is that you probably won't even know your boyfriend in 5 years time, so ask yourself, seriously, is he worth you going behind your mums back and loosing her trust in you? Just because you want to have sex? Sex is for adults and if you want to be an adult you won't need to go behind your parents back. You may think you are old enough, but the fact you need to write for advice shows that you are not yet ready.
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