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writes:I DON'T WANT TO FEEL LIKE A CHEAT!I am visiting my LDR boyfriend who I love dearly this weekend. As coincedence has it - there is another guy who I know from the same town who I havn't seen for ages but he desperately wants to meet up with me. Therefore, I suggested "as a friend" that I could see him afterwards to say Hi! - But why do I feel guilty?? - I LOVE my boyfriend and would never be unfaithful to him but I feel guilty if I meet this other man. Advice please!! Reply to this Question
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reader, 48years  +, writes (3 June 2009):
 You're not married.
You are free to meet and see anyone you want to.
If your LDR wants to keep you to himself, tell him to put a ring on your finger.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (3 June 2009):
 Does your boyfriend know you're meeting this guy? Maybe you're feeling guilty because of the "ifs". If only I wasn't with my new wonderful boyfriend. If only he had been single at the same time I was. If only we had said how we felt about each other at another time.... etc.
"Ifs" can pop up at any time. The key is to recognize that it's just a different path you've chosen, and that path alas, leads you away from a guy who might have been great for you. It doesn't mean that your current boyfriend isn't wonderful and perfect too.
Just be honest with your boyfriend and this guy. Don't put yourself in a position that makes you feel uncomfortable or do something you will regret. Live your life with integrity, as you've been advised, you have that choice. Just flip the situation, and ask yourself how you would want your guy to handle it. That might help.
Good luck!
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reader, miss d +, writes (2 June 2009):
 ok well you dont want to feel guilty then tell your boyfriend that your going to meet up with this guy just tell him he is a friend and if your boyfriend loves you and trusts you he wont mind
miss d
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