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writes:I have a boyfriend of nearly a year and he's just moved off to the coast to uni, and I'm still in London. I made my worries about us staying together to him clear, and he reassured me saying things like, 'don't worry ill talk to you every day'. This was fine for the first couple of weeks, and even felt like it was getting better as we could appreciate each other more. But recently he seems less bothered about us, we dont talk much and was quite moody/unattentive when i visited him. He has never been a phone conversation guy, even when we were both in london, which makes it hard to keep in touch. Normally i would consider and maybe actually end it, but he was quite an introverted person and (my fault as well i know) i ended up being cut off from a lot of my friends because of him. I don't want to end things with him without starting to build my life up again, as i feel I'd just fall to pieces. Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): thanks for that, it really put it in perspective!!! i guess i needed a kick up the bum from someone like you :) (its a compliment) xxxx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (3 November 2008):
Call your friends, go out for a few drinks. Catch up.
Then call him and end it.
All this will take a week max.
You say that he's needy but you are the one who can't deal without him there as a safety net because you haven't physically been out with your friends for a while.
He's at uni. He'll be making a million new friends and will be fine.
If you want to split up with him then do it. Don't make excuses about "building your life back up."
Go and watch some news about what is happening in Congo and then tell me your life needs to be rebuilt because it's so bad.
Good Luck!! xx
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