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writes:I have been In a great relationship with my boyfriend for the past two years. But now wants to spice up our sex life with anal intercourse. I cant stand it and I told him that. He just told me get lubed up and ready for action or else. What do I do? What I read it can be painful and unpleasant. I don't want to lose him. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2013): If you have a great relationship for the past two years he must of said this for a specific reason no? You don't like anal sex and he knows that as you say. I strongly believe that there is something else cooking in the pot as they say but what it is I wouldn't hazard to guess. You should of been a little more descriptive with what he said. If he has been great for two years it is highly unlikely that he meant what he said. This sounds like a man that has gone out of context for some reason. I strongly believe he is testing you for some reason. No? Any person who would say or else in context to a intimate relationship act is either worried about something in your character or he is afraid to perform such act or is worried that somebody else wants to sweep you off your feet. Or he is really just trying to take the relationship to the extreme limits for a good reason. I have been in a successful long term relationship of three years and both my girlfriend and I would never penetrate each other anally. We have accepted practices and if I get drunk and would try something like that I would not have a girlfriend anymore. So I am assuming you have the same creed. No? You must have otherwise you wouldn't be still together. Hang tight I believe the truth to this whole affair will soon be revealed to you. Good-luck.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (4 May 2013):
 Or else? Seriously, what kind of guy says "you do what I want or else." It's manipulative and selfish at best, and sounds rapey at worst. Someone who cares about you doesn't force you into pain through threats and emotional blackmail. If he actually ends the relationship because you won't submit to being his masturbation sleeve at any cost, then he clearly did not care about you or your wellbeing at all.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 May 2013):
 Or else. And with no regrets.
OP, this gem of a boyfriend is blackmailing you. He is bullying you to force you into a sexual act that you aren't ready for or inclined to. And he is not even being nice , tryng nicely to convince you or encourage you,... he just wants his anal or else.
What does this mean, OP? Unequivocably one thing : he likes your ass, he does not like you.
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reader, Got Issues  +, writes (4 May 2013):
 If he gives you an ultimatum, i.e. anal sex or the relationship ends, then you should end the relationship. Do not ever give in to ultimatums.
He is asking you to do something that you don't want to do and that would cause you pain. Some people love it, others get nothing out of it, but the point is that you're not comfortable with it and you've told him that and he doesn't seem to be listening. If you care about someone, you don't use emotional blackmail to get that person to agree to something they really don't want to do.
Is he open to the idea of being anally penetrated with a dildo? Probably not. So why should you do something that he wouldn't do. I honestly think you are wasting your time on this guy.
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