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writes: I've recently developed feelings for this guy at work which have become stronger over the past few months. He already has a girlfriend of about two years though who also works at the same place, I think he has the same feelings for me because the atmosphere is electric whenever we're close and people have noticed the tension between us, even though we havent done anything yet. I don't want to cheat but can't switch of my feelings?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2006): don't be so quick to think he feels the same.what you are getting from him may be tention of what to do if you approach him w/this.perhaps he knows how you feel and likes the attention but won't cheat or leave his girl,then what?best to just move on!the other lady may be psyco you could get hurt,don't forget the other girl(ever!)
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reader, bonym  +, writes (15 May 2006):
 Even though you haven't done anything "yet" My friend, dont let this yet become reality. Don't do anything. You may not be able to "switch" off the feelings but you are going to have to deal with the electricity and strong chemistry beyween you because if you dont, this wil turn ugly and someone is going to get hurt, if not all of you. Anyway, you are not really sure how he feels about you so dont let that come into the picture. Just leave it alone for now, if he is with someone else, you cant do anything about your feelings. xXx
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (15 May 2006):
 If you fancy him that is ok, but it is not ok to go after him when he has a girlfriend and especially one based at your workplace! Basically you could have a fling with him and it could go horribly wrong and what then? You have to see him at work still, you have to see his ex at work still...it could all be a mess really. If you really want him and his feelings are mutual then he should finish with his current girlfriend before getting involved with you because that would only be fair to the other girl. But it won't stop the awkwardness in the long run since people at work may feel sorry for the other girl and treat you badly as a result.
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