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*lliek0731
writes:I have been talking to this guy I met on the net for the past 2 months. We had really hit it off. We talked forever on the phone and the net. I knew what he looked like and all and I knew he was overweight and I wanted to look past that, also he said he was in the proccess of losing weight and already lost like 50lbs, but he is still pretty big. I am not a big girl but I am not skinny i can lose a few puonds myself. I was scared that when I met him and saw in person his weight that it would scare me away and we finally met today and I think it is scaring me away. I felt embarassed to be out with him and I am not attracted to him at all, he kissed me and i felt nothing. i dont want to break his heart because we had made the mistake and he bought me tickets to 2 different concerts this summer and I invited to come over 4th of July, but I dont feel anyhting with him what do I do? Also I dont think i am over my ex because I was wondering what he was doing the whole me and this new guy were out. I started crying after the date and after the kiss because I was thinking of my ex. I am not ready for anything right now and I am scared I will break this guys heart, what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2009): alliek037, you have not made any 'commitments' or anything to this internet friend. OK, you did meet him in person, but, you are not obligated in any way. You can just tell him where you are coming from now, still in a confused situation with your ex and are not ready for anything more serious right now with anyone. I don't think his "heart will be broken". It is not as if you have been in a real relationship. I think he probably understands this.
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reader, josephy  +, writes (24 June 2009):
 you owe him the truth you have to be honest with the guy try not to mentioned the weight thing but tell him that you don't have any feeling to him. and personally I don't think its about you ex it seems more about how the new guy look like you are scared that people will make fun of you for dating this guy. listen look is not everything is not love, love is something pure you find it in the heart not in the face and the body. if he is a good guy kind and treat you will why not dating him unless you don't want to then its back to u.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (24 June 2009):
 hun all you can do is just tell him you just need to tell this guy you're not looking for anything really serious at the moment.
just tell him you thought you were looking for something more but you realise you're still not over your ex and you'd like to remain friends.
nothing wrong with that :)
hope this helps sweety. good luck.
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