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writes:not sure how to start but I felt like writing, it helps me a lot. I will appreciate any advice you can give me. Thank you.What has happened: recently about 2 months ago, I started noticing cheating clues from my boyfriend. Strange texts, calls he couldn't hear, he would go in the bathroom for long periods with his phone.. Anyways, today, i was going to confront him and ask what has been going on. I know for a fact that he has been talking to this girl in Cebu, she posts everythig in her FB, that's how I know. The last thing that happened with them was that she called, I was there and he acted like he couldn't hear. That was Wednesday.today, friday, he ask me to go over and I did but i was very decided to confront him about it. I went, getting there was different, his apartment was dirty, he was sleepy and he didn't put a special movie for us to watch, like he always does. I sneaked to check his phone and there were no calls/texts from her. The other day I checked and there were. I checked her FB and she's saying that she's being silent because of the phone call that he didn't answer.So, today I was over his house and he was sleepy, treating me like we been married for 200 years, no shower, no special movie, no special cooking and was sleepy on top of that. Not sure what he's feelings are for me. Anyways, I can never hide my feelings. I got there around 7pm then by 11:30, we were watching tv, I couldn't stand it anymore, my feelings started showing, he started asking, "what's wrong baby?", he had to ask that about 3 times. Well, soon enough I said "is getting late, I have to go". Usually I stay there until about 3am or 4am. This time 11:30pm. I suddenly felt like leaving, since I noticed he was ignoring me. I put my shoes on, grabbed my purse, phone and keys and said, "have a good night, Im leaving" he noticed I wasn't too happy and stood up and said "wait baby, wait". That's it, now i'm in dearcupid crying my story for a man that doesn't love me. I really feel like calling him, but I'm not going to. Or do you think i should call and appologize and tell him to go on with his life and with the other girl? Should I wait? I don't want to be with him if he likes the other girl better.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (17 September 2011):
 I think you have a right to know what's going on, and you need to give him the chance to be honest with you. Don't let it get into a huge arguement, just talk like adults. Just because there was one time that he didn't get a movie for you or cook you dinner, doesn't mean that he likes someone else more and didn't make the effort for you.
Just talk to him openly about it, share your fears and hopefully he'll be able to put your mind at rest :)
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