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writes:HI, i was involved in a realationship for two years and moved on from that into another one with a really nice guy. yes we had our fights but always got through them for the short time we were together. i dont want to be in a relationship right now. i want to be alone and i didnt use this guy and he wasnt a rebound type thing and he wants to be with me so bad but i have so much going through my head. i even dont know what to do at all. i still care about him and love him but i want time for myself and i dont know whats going to happen at all. what do i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (1 August 2007):
 What you should do is talk to him, honestly and directly, about how you feel, and break up with him if you can't give him what he needs. If you're direct and sincere, and your actions match your words, he will have an easier time accepting this than if you let the problem fester. If you break up with him, don't offer friendship; this is not what he wants, and you'll break his heart. Don't refuse any contact with him, either, but make it clear you're with him out of human respect, only; make sure he doesn't get any false hope.
And, for the future, don't get into rebound relationships. You can see the problems they create. This guy will end up hurt, no matter what you do. He doesn't deserve that; but he deserves even less to keep trying to be with you if you don't love him. Let him have his own life.
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