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writes:So I broke up with my girlfriend last night. we have been dating for 2 years. I am very much in love with her, but She cheated on me more than once. Last night she came over to "talk" she started to cry and then after a while of begging me to take her back, she began to get angry. She lyed in the middle of the road saying that she'd rather die than to not have me in her life. I kind of felt that, that was her way to manipulate me to get back with her. I picked her up off the street then she took off running to the main road, of course i ran after her, As much as I am angry she cheated on me i still care about her. I had to restrain her from standing on the road. I don't want to get back with her but I also don't want to be the reason she does something crazy. What can I do in a situation like this?
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reader, shiraz *  +, writes (24 February 2009):
its a horrible situation to be in. you cant tell the person how unfair it is, you find yourself feeling guilty for doing no wrong, i can really relate to your situation. i was the weak one, who stayed around took all the crap he had to give and still remained positive and the strong one i felt he needed in his life. Deep down i loved him, you say you care but i feel for you the love has gone and the best thing you can do is let go, i know your trying but dont just leave her, she needs you now and this desperate attempt at keeping you is her way of thinking she will suceed. tell her otherwise, reasure her youll lways be her friend, pick her up when shes down just be there for her but what you once had has gone and it wont ever come back, be gentle but firm in what you say. she knows how to work it but you never know how far she can go, some peopele dont really know in themslesves the extent to which they will go until they get there, the spur or the moment that can change it all. dont let it get there far, but at the same time dont fall back thinking its you doing this. its out of your hands mentally you can only be there physically (as you have been). tell her what she does not only scares you but your forgetting who she used to be, the fun times you had as shes turning into a shell of the person she once was. it make knock her back a bit and you have to be the strong one for the time being. its hard and its difficult to know how to be, its unfair that you find yourself in this situation but your helpless to it all really. keep trying but dont put your life on hold for a person you dotn love any more, it should not be your problem but for now shes making it your problem and the best thing you can do is be supportive in order for you both to reach a happy end. good luck, i hope all turns out well xxx
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reader, JustThat.  +, writes (24 February 2009):
Sounds like a bad situation..Well been cheated on hurts and I can understand how you still love and care about her. 2 years is a really long time and she's probably scared of what will happen if you are not with her when you need her if something bad happens. Tell her that you will stay close friends with her and don't leave her alone if your worried about her. Don't leave her until you are sure that she will be ok without you 24/7 by her side. Don't ignore her because it's the worse thing you could do right now and she will be more likely to do something stupid if you leave her. If she does not accept that you want to be friends keep reminding her until she gets the message that you aren't in a relationship anymore but you want to be friends as you still care about her. Hope I helped :d
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