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writes: so i was in a porn movie about 5 years ago when i was 20, (i was in a very dire and bad situation in my life) but i have grown and learnt from that experience and i have gone to school and got myself a job on a magazine. I am very happy with how I have recovered my life. but my past seems to keep coming up and getting me, like this girl at my work that hates me has been trying to find out stuff about me that she can use against me, and im afraid that she is going to find out about my bad past. I cant quit becasue I work at a magazine and my job is very sought after, and i have worked for this position long and hard. i dont want to give this girlt he satisfaction of me leaving either. What do i do? I dontw ant to be known as the office Whore!
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (19 June 2008):
 Hi,
You think this girl hates you enough to dig out the dirt on you. I think you may be thinking she is a lot more resourceful than she is, or at least is paying you more attention than she wants.
I'm sure she has better things to do than spend most of her time simply trying to dig the dirt on you - she has friends, boyfriend maybe, places to go people to see, I'm sure you are not the only focus of her life, she probably just disses you out to her friends at the very worst.
The only thing you can do is continue living your life, like somebody who has committed a crime you will always face the prospect of being found out, but you have two choices. Live your life to the full and take each day as it comes, or constantly stress out looking over your shoulder and worrying about people who dont like you discovering your little secret. I think the first option is better.
We all have done things we are ashamed of, some are worse than others but you know we are all human. Sure people will judge you if you did this but what's the alternative.
And by the way, there are literally thousands upon thousands of porn films out there so its highly unlikely she will ever discover it.
good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): I agree with DiovanLestat.
You were destpreate and there were no alternatives at the time. You are not an office whore.
Keep your head up and let this girl know that she doesn't bother you. Even though she really does.
If her behaviour comtinues or gets worse then I really think you should talk to your boss.
Or perhaps there is a chance that you could talk to the girl, try and become friendly with her or perhaps talk to her about how she's acting.
Either way I think something must be done about her. You have nothing to be ashamed about. Try not to let your past worry you, after all.. it's your past.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): What bad past. You needed money, you got some work in the adult entertainment industry. You have nothing to feel ashamed about. You didn't steal, you didn't cheat, you exchanged your time and shared your body to get the money you badly needed at the time. Hold your head up high, nobody has the right to judge you untill they have walked in your shoes.
You have mistaken logic, the office whore is somebody that start giving out sexual favours for money, the office "slut" (awful word) is some that has sex with everybody no matter if she wants to or not. You are neither of these. I would suggest you do not date the men from work and keep your private and public life completely seperate. You worked in the adult industry once in your past, if anybody finds out then tell them it's something you did but you are not willing to talk about.
If this woman's behaviour continues to bother you, then have a talk with your boss and see what you can do about bullying and harrassment to get her to stop.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (19 June 2008):
 What are the chances that she will find out you were in a porn movie?? Did they use your name in the movie otherwise if she does find out about it, deny it! We all have 'doubles' in this world, so whos to say that you dont just resemble a porn star??? Why does this girl hate you so much, is she threatened by you or just a nasty person?
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