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writes: There is this 17 year-old girl in my karate class, who I absolutely don't want to be friends with. She is way more girly and acts much more grown-up than me, and I feel uncomfortable talking to and being around her. I understand that she is trying to be nice, but I am not the one for her. Reply to this Question
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (5 August 2006):
 Why do you feel so uncomfortable?
I am sure she is only trying to be friendly and make a new friend.
Try talking to her, you never know what other interests you share.
I met my best friend at school because we fought each other over a bad tackle at football. We mutually hated each others guts before the match and only got talking after we both got sent off.
Seems we had much more in common than both being unable to perform a decent tackle :)
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (5 August 2006):
 If you really cant stand her, just challenge her to a full contact sparring match. Turn the would-be friend into a rival. That's been proven to work!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2006): i agree with the post below. you said 'you are not the one for her.' that sounds to me like it's more than just friendship. is she coming on to you? either way, if you don't want to be friends with this girl, or whatever else she wants, then you don't have to. but you can at least be nice to her. maybe tolerate her. because she seems like she's trying to be friendly to you. no need for hostility in my opinion.
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reader, anon2907  +, writes (4 August 2006):
 It's odd to feel so strongly about someone that you *don't* want to know, even as much as to post about it here.
Why should you feel like you have to talk to her or be friends? You can be polite without having to be her next best friend.
Is there something else going on? Your post says your a girl and she's a girl. Do you think she's coming onto you? Is she gay? Are you gay?
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (4 August 2006):
 Why not give the friendship a go - her maturity may rub off on you and she may benefit from knowing you too, perhaps she is just lonely and reaching out for company. Unless you try how do you know what you have got in common with this girl? You share an interest in martial arts at least! If you pigeon hole people into stereotypes before you spend time getting to know them then it can be a lonely life. She is being nice because she obviously thinks of you as friend-potential, why not at least try to see if she has anything in common with you?
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