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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My ex has an ego and wont talk to me. I said some hurtful things after she cornered me like a wounded animal. I shouldnt have said such targetted hurtful things but she was relentless at my weakest point (i am usually the rock for everyone) and i was working as hard as i could. We were both young and i was trying to set us up financially but she needed emotional support. She was studying. I didnt realise this at the time we had a messy break up and spoke a few times over the last several years but usually ended in her blocking me (she unblocks and blocks me). I know she misses me but theres nothing i can do. I do no not want to be her puppy so how do i tell her i miss her and want to talk like adults she gets very emotional and irrational, angry alot of the time. Where as im calculated and usually composed. She has an ego for defensive purposes with baggage that has happened in her life. Whats my next move and how do i deal with an her ego? Im so confused. Reply to this Question
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reader, N91  +, writes (5 November 2016):
 This just sounds draining. What exactly are you both gaining from this situation?
I think you both need to cut contact and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2016): The reason she is an ex is because you don't want to deal with her nonsense. Sorry, you're not confused. To put it bluntly, you're whipped.
If you don't want to be her puppy; then man-up, bro!
It is apparent your emotional wounds are still healing, and she is good at manipulation and emasculating you.
If you are calculated and composed; then allow your sense of reason and self-control to take hold, and remove yourself from the bullsh*t. You're feeding on the drama, and she's carrying your balls around in her purse.
It's time to break it off completely and move on. Cut all ties and cease contact. She is attempting to keep you from finding someone else; and settling into a stable and fulfilling relationship. You're suspended in emotional turmoil and stuck in the past.
The objective is to keep your wounds open and bleeding. Thereby rendering you emotionally unfit to start anything new with anyone else.
Don't blame her, you're allowing it to happen.
The old relationship isn't truly over until you cut the cord.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 November 2016):
 Why are you wasting time on this drama?
You don't HAVE to try and be friends with your ex. From what you write she doesn't really WANT you in her life.
Find a REAL friend whom you can talk to like an adult and LET her move on and do her own thing. She doesn't OWE you contact.
Her ego is hers to deal with, not something you need to fix.
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