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writes: Hey aunts. I need some help. Im a straight male teen, and i just turned 15 recently. And i know i like gurls but i've always had this bi-curiousity since i was younger.idk..im just confused. Cuz i've never really had a girlfriend...so i wouldnt know. so i dont know what i am really. so this bi-curiosity, i used to just block it, like act like there was nothing there..i kinda like denied it all. I kinda would lie to myself over and over again. But now it seems like i can;t do that. Cuz now im starting to be enterested in some guys. Im starting to be attracted to some guys.And i cant help it. Idont really want to be gay or b..but i just dont know what to do anymore. Im lost. Ugh i hate my life. Can anyone provide me with any guidence. Any comments willl be greatly appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): hi there mate, im gary 22 from scotland, i know how you feel afer reading what you had wrote on here , i was the very same , when i was 15 , 16 i was like straight tho looked at guys and would think too mysel whether they were hot or not, at that time i thoiught nothing off it , tho when i got too 19 i got more n more curious , i hated it kept tellling myself no gary u cant fancy guys , for nearly a year i kept trying too block things , i couldnt, i ended up chatting too a guy online we met up then became a bit more jus as mates tho , he made me relise that i was bi and there was nothinh too worry about , he told me so many guys are the same as us we are bi/.gay tho try n hide it , now im 22 jus moved out from parents etc living life on my own tho its great as im still known as being straight by many people tho i have made lots off bi/gay mates and they have made me feel closer too them and now i dont bother that i like guys anymore ,although sum times i jus wish i could be straight tho i cant change that , you are who you are and cant change ur sex , sadly but hey maybe liking male , n female its fun lol be greedy as one bi mate thinks off it , you will sort ur mind out and become sure off whet u want in life , and as for coming out , take ur time only do that wen ur ready , i havent yet tho any new mates i make i tell them im bi and most off them think its fine and never mention it again , good luck and hope you get somwhere , gary
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): hi there mate, im gary 22 from scotland, i know how you feel afer reading what you had wrote on here , i was the very same , when i was 15 , 16 i was like straight tho looked at guys and would think too mysel whether they were hot or not, at that time i thoiught nothing off it , tho when i got too 19 i got more n more curious , i hated it kept tellling myself no gary u cant fancy guys , for nearly a year i kept trying too block things , i couldnt, i ended up chatting too a guy online we met up then became a bit more jus as mates tho , he made me relise that i was bi and there was nothinh too worry about , he told me so many guys are the same as us we are bi/.gay tho try n hide it , now im 22 jus moved out from parents etc living life on my own tho its great as im still known as being straight by many people tho i have made lots off bi/gay mates and they have made me feel closer too them and now i dont bother that i like guys anymore ,although sum times i jus wish i could be straight tho i cant change that , you are who you are and cant change ur sex , sadly but hey maybe liking male , n female its fun lol be greedy as one bi mate thinks off it , you will sort ur mind out and become sure off whet u want in life , and as for coming out , take ur time only do that wen ur ready , i havent yet tho any new mates i make i tell them im bi and most off them think its fine and never mention it again , good luck and hope you get somwhere , gary
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2009): hey my ex-boyfriend is going through the same kind of thing as you. He's always been totally sure he's sraight, but recently he's been crushing on guys and he hates it. I told him not to worry about it, but he kept worrying so I finally introduced him to free love. Free love is when you love someone for their personality and it doesn't matter what sex they are. I know it's annoying as hell when you try your hardest to be straight and it doesn't work-i've had my own experience with this- so just go with the flow. And if you feel like things are moving to fast or youreally dont like whats happening then slow it down and make it stop. And if your worried about how your parents or the rest of society will react then all i can say is who cares what anyone else thinks?! if it's you and who you wanna be then dont worry what other people think because in the end the only thing that really matters is what you think and feel. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2009): just be who u want to be if u want to be gay then be gay im experancing the same thing as you just do wat feels best gud luk
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you for everyone who answered and commented on my issue. I was just wondering if there are any guys who've been in my situation?
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reader, chiina +, writes (29 November 2009):
hey I understand where your coming from. I'm a bi female. I actally had a girlfriend before A boyfriend. if your attracted to both genders then there's no doubt your bi. and there's nothing wrong with it but before others can accept it, you must accept it. don't let anybody bring you Down honey. I been bisexual my whole life. it's natural if you let it be:) please message me if you still have questions
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2009): i definatly know where your coming from!
when i was littler from bout eight to like twelve i swear i hooked up with like five girls!
and now im 19 years old and i graduated beauty school but the weirdest thing happened i told this girl that i did that when i was little and she told me she did the same thing! she even played the same game i did one of the times where we pretended to play house!
but after she said that i asked another girl and another girl and another girl and sooner or later i asked bout fifthy one girls and they all did the same thing!
but how this relates to your feelings is all the girls i talked to agreed that everyones curious bout the same sex i think its natural nature
i even find myself cheakin out porn now and then thats girl on girl
one day i totally tried hooking up with a really good friend of mine and i totally got turned down cause she said we were besties and it would be weird and ruin our friendship
it was so fucking embarressing and now to this day its kinda awkward and im so scared shell tell someone else
im sure she did cause theres never such thing as a secret shit always leaks out
but when i masterbate i think of both boys and girls
iv only dated boys but i always wonder what it would be like!!!
secretly im hopeing one day a guy i date asks for a threesome! id only do it if she was absolutely gorgeous but the problem would be if her va jay jy would look like mine i know that sounds silly but look at porns everyones are different!
my best friend is a gay guy and he tells me its a constant battle when he dates a guy whos dick is bigger stronger more shapped excetra
but anyways good luck with that my advice would to just wait a couple years till your old enough to drive and secretly go to a gay club far far far away from your house and hook up with a hottie and see if it turns you on more than girls do :)
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reader, cheerwhore23 +, writes (29 November 2009):
u don't really need a girlfriend to see if ur gay...I'm not saying like go have sex but mess around with a few people and see if u like it then u can even kiss a few guys and see how u feel
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2009): my cousin juz found out he was gay too..
i think tat if u for sure dont want to be gay or bi
try datin a girl..and see if u can have feelings for a girl
im not sure if there really is a way to stop tat feeling
but i doubt its possible to be wat u dont want to b
idk if this will help..but talk to girls
start conversations wit them.
wen i was ur age i thought myself as bi too..cuz i was such a tomboy tat i started checking out girls..and started questioning myself..
by its normal to for girls to check out other girls..tats wat ppl would tell me..but i would be like "oo shit look at her boobs they r huge..dang i wanna touch them" hahaha
but if u noe tat u dont want to b gay
try harder not to think bout guys like tat
idk..sorrie if i didnt help
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