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anonymous
writes:I have never had a question about my sexuality until about a year ago. I have always liked girls, but lately, I've been paying more attention to the male gender. I don't want to be gay, bi, or whatever you want to call it. I'm just confused, and it's eating me alive! I don't care what others think, but as I said, I don't want to be gay, but lately guys have turned me on more than girls. Help!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): I have similar feelings but only with specific guys. I think its an urge to be like them (fit and good looking naked) not that i really see them naked. My goal is to get married and have kids so these feelings are not really welcome for me. It seems (from other sources) that theses feelings are not uncommon, and that was a big help to me to think that I can do both. These feelings I get are usually forgotten about when i'm not in contact with the guys for some time so maybe when you move about you'll forget about 'whoever' and move on.
I have delved further into the gay thing recently online etc and felt bad about that afterwards so my suggestion is not to try anything too 'gay' unless you're really sure that's what you want to do. Crossing certain boundaries can be just what you don't need, even if it feels right at the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2008): Don't be too concerned at this point. It is not abnormal to be "attracted" to boys at your age. Same-gender crushes can last into the early teens, and go away as your interest in girls becomes more involved. However there is a chance that you are more attracted sexually to men, in which case you will have to address your feelings in the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): as long as you dont tell anyone especaly guys its fine its probibaly that your hormones are not balenced yet so you think you like guys but dont go aney further with that thought.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): Well then...
So why don't you want to be bisexual? Is there some stigma that you don't like about it? You know, being homosexual/bisexual does not mean that you act in a certain way...
Anyways, when I was younger I found this website very helpful and I hope you will too: www.outproud.org
Good luck.
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