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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok this one is really complicatedI have this girlfriend,she's 22(and has a child) and I'm 18.We've been together for a month. We really like each other alot.Her heart as been broken many times, so she's lost all trust in men,so she think we all are the same, only after her body .Even before we were together, she went through a breakdown as she found out her previous boyfriend was married.I've known her ever since was child but we never said a word to each other as I as very shy,but I had always like her and I heard rumours that she liked me too. I wasn't really serious about being in a relationship with her.Infact I had liked her but not to the point were I wanted her,as I respected the fact that she is older than me,so I wasn't going make any moves on her.So those feelings for her I buried inside.At the time we began to see each other,it was a misunderstanding as it was a friend of mind who went without my consent and told that I liked her and wanted to talk to her.I know I should have been straight with her from that day, but when she came,the way she looked at me,showed me that she had real feelings for me,and I just couldn't tell her that I wasn't the one who had called her, mainly because I kept saying to myself that I had always like this girl and I would be a fool to let this chance go by even though I didn't wanted itSo from that day I began to live a lie and told myself that I had wanted her.I tried so many times to tell her the truth,but anytime I see her, the words just won't come out and instead the words she wants to hear comes out. The problem is that now she wants to have sex,its not that I don't want to have sex with her,but I don't want to break her heart.As if we have sex,it wouldn't mean as much to me as it would mean to her,as she is extremely naive and trustworthy, looks as if she as fallen in love with me.She as been used and abused by many men before as she had given them her all just to find out that they only wanted the sex.I don't want t be next man who breaks her heart as I really care for her,so I don't want to have sex with her and it ending up not meaning a thing to me.But I just can't look her in the face and tell her the truth. Right now I'm very confuse,what is the best thing to do?
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reader, slen  +, writes (25 September 2009):
 you need to be honest and upfront, explain it to her and let her know u are telling her this because u care about her. better being honest and trying to explain how u feel rather than jump in to bed with her
hope this helps xxx
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reader, mint  +, writes (25 September 2009):
 well i think you should jus tell her the truth now, because of you do hav sex with her and she fonds out later then she is jus going to think of you as one of those guys jus afta one thing. just tell her its the best thing to do.
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