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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have a friend who is separated from his wife. He's got his own place, etc. He claimed he wanted me as a friend, yet came after me as a girlfriend. We have been talking to each other every day minus once or twice a month for 6 months. I felt the relationship was going plutonic because he was pulling away. He has been going to court for spousal support, and is acting like he is suffering the loss of the marriage. Anyway, the other night, he was crying over the phone about her(I've never heard that man cry) because he had to get a copy of his marriage license and it was hard when the last time he was there, they were happy to be getting married. I felt really bad for him, so I was there and listened. Then the next day he told me that he really wanted to thank me for being there for him. That it meant alot more than I'd ever know. I was nice and said that is what friends are for. A few nights later, he opened up to me admitting that he was trying to date other women (we were not exclusive, although I wished we were) and that for one reason or another, it did not work out. He said that if he wanted to go out, then he would go out with me. That he was happy with the way our relationship was. I asked him what if it's not enough and he said Yeah, I know you are hoping for more. At first I tried to say no, but then maybe and finally saying i don't know. He understood and told me I did not have to explain. He asked me if I wanted him to date other people, I said no, but that I thought it might be selfish of me to expect that. I really did not know what to say. Was he trying to say we were exclusive? Did I miss something? This was Thursday night, we met for lunch on Saturday and the last time I talked to him was Sunday night for 40 minutes. I actually got off the phone and cried. I cried because I know he will never love me, yet I don't know why he would say those things to me a few nights before. He did not call me Monday or yesterday, so I called him yesterday and he never called me back. He always calls back or text. Then he post something on FB 10 minutes later. Feeling that he was ignoring me, I called his number (40 mins) later from a work fax number and he answered on the 3rd ring, I did it twice. Should I send him an email or text asking if he is okay or should i just take it as a sign that although he just told me all the bull crap a few days ago, he's done with me and I should just walk away? What I really wanted to do when I called him from the fax number was question what was up. However, I did not want to appear like a CRAZY person.What would you do?
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