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anonymous
writes:Me and my fiancé were having a conversation earlier about our sex life and what does it for him and vice versa and he says about blow jobs but I don't care for givving them very much and said that as he never goes down on me then I won't on him so it's tit for tat, then it came out that he didn't like doing it as the 4 people he's done it to he only had 1 good experience which wasn't me (obviously, which he pretty much admitted) he said the one girl who he liked it with was because she tasted like tootie fruite (bit weird I know) and then he carried on to say how I just tasted like something he had never tasted before (I assume it wasn't a good thing considering he has never done it again) is there anything out there that I can buy to make it taste better down there or anything I can do etc? I really need help with this as its really upset me for 2 reasons that I must smell or taste so bad he won't ever do it and that our sex life will just go down hill from here! Help me someone please isn't want this to ruin my relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2012): Have you pointed out to him that semen and ejaculatory fluid 'taste like something you have never tasted before?'If he wants a blow job, an you want oral sex as well, you both need to man/woman up and compromise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2012): There are plenty of ways really OP, but one of the best incentives usually is the "do me ad I'll do you", other than that freshly showered, having him eat a mint beforehand, using flavoured lube, chocolate or honey on the area etc. Also get some dental dams from your local family planning clinic, that way he can do it without any taste whatsoever.
As long as you don't have some kind of infection then other than distaste I see no reason why he shouldn't.
To me OP doing things we don't necessarily like to please our partners is all part of being in a relationship.
For me oral is important so I don't really stay too long in relationships where I don't get it and I also understand how important a source of pleasure it is for most women so I gladly do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2012): Hi there, Firstly its great that the two of can have these conversations about your love life. If both of you just really don't like oral then that would be the end of that and you could both live happily ever after just having hot sex for the rest of your lives, but it sounds like you both do. Sooo, this might just keep coming back around and causing you problems in the future. I can understand the reasons why you might not like to give oral. Years ago I was seeing a guy who used to push my head down and it used to make me gag and choke, so that put me off for a while. I can also understand that it can't be very nice to give oral to a girl who isn't particularily clean or fresh downstairs but "Tootie frutie" isn't a taste that is naturally secreted from any woman's private parts and he should probably have kept that much information to himself. I know its easy to fall into tit for tat but if you try to sort this out now you won't have any regrets in the future and I'm talking from experience. Ask each other: What puts you off oral sex? This is something that can be easily fixed as long as you come to a compromise. For example he could go down on you when your just out of the shower so that he knows you are clean and fresh. And ask your man could take steps to make it a nicer experience for you to give him oral. I've had a relationship where I was just jumped on and expected to be horny immediately without being touched. Eventually, I felt like I needed to be with someone who who wanted to touch me, someone who was actually turned on by touching me and giving me pleasure. Women need this level of intimacy on the build up to sex. Good Luck.
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